Online Dating Poll - for ALL
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Online Dating Poll - for ALL
| Mon, 05-16-2005 - 6:28pm |
POLL: All single moms – former or current - Share online dating experiences - answer as many as you have time for - or even something else you want to share about online dating - we want to hear from you!!
1) Are you online now?
2) Which online sites are you on or have you tried? (match.com, eharmony,com etc.)
3) Which one do you think is the best and why?
4) Do you think online dating works?
5) Share your profile description about you...
6) Share your profile summary about your date...
7) Best idea for first date...
8) A summary of who you have met – good or bad - and what you have learned...
THANKS!!

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1) Are you online now?
No - well sort of - I have my profile hidden
2) Which online sites are you on or have you tried? (match.com, eharmony,com etc.)
I have tried match.com and eharmony.com.
3) Which one do you think is the best and why?
I think match.com is the best because it has so many people to search through. I like the theory behind eharmony.com but you get so few matches and they are not any different that what is on match.com....
4) Do you think online dating works?
I have seen it work for some and not for others. I think it is a great way to learn good dating skills and to see what you want or don't want. I learned a lot while doing it. But got sick of the process and blind dates.
5) Share your profile description about you...
You will find me to be a positive person who appreciates the simple things in life. I like to keep active and enjoy every day. My friends all say that I am a sweet and kind person who is easy to get along with. I have an 9 year old son who lives with me most of the time. He is a lot of fun, athletic and smart. I believe I have a lot to offer the right person. I joined match.com with the hopes that I will meet a quality person looking for the same.
6) Share your profile summary about your date...
He is settled here in South Florida. He has a young heart and mind and he likes to be active and have fun. He is looking for a quality person. I know that attraction and chemistry are important, but I believe that honesty, affection and positive communication go a long way, too.
7) Best idea for first date...
Coffee - keep it short and simple!
8) A summary of who you have met – good or bad - and what you have learned...
2 notables - one guy who went back with his exwife and one guy who is an executive and went back with his exgirlfriend and then dumped her and wanted to come back to me. Some others who were interesting but no chemistry or major red flags (like 4-5 glasses of wine on the first date, an exwife with bipolar, one who doesn't like air conditioning, ones who travel 8 days a week, some who want me to travel and leave my kid with a nanny for extensive time, etc....)
1) Are you online now? yep got profiles on about 4 sites ;)
2) Which online sites are you on or have you tried? (match.com, eharmony,com etc.) match.com, eharmony.com, perfectmatch.com, yahoo.com, americansingles.com
3) Which one do you think is the best and why? eharmony.com...you can cut off communication at anytime place people on hold, and it matches your personality I have made 3 really good guy friends from there.
4) Do you think online dating works? Sure its a way to meet people, you just have to be careful about believeing what you read, take everything with a grain of salt
5) Share your profile description about you... oh gosh...
6) Share your profile summary about your date...
7) Best idea for first date...somewhere for lunch an afternoon thing. That way its daylight and you can leave early.
8) A summary of who you have met – good or bad - and what you have learned...I have met some really great guys on eharmony, match.com got to obsessive(call more then 6 times a day) guys so I don't like that one very much. eharmony really seems to be for people who are looking for relationships I'd reccomend it
1) Are you online now? nope.
2) Which online sites are you on or have you tried? (match.com, eharmony,com etc.) matchmaker.com and yahoo.com
3) Which one do you think is the best and why? For relationships...yahoo.com- there are more serious like-minded individuals on there... matchmaker is FULL of people looking to just get laid, and some are married! I recommend staying off that one unless that's what you're looking for!
4) Do you think online dating works? YES!
5) Share your profile description about you... oh geez, it was a while ago but it said something like...
I'm single and free for the first time in 8 years and I'm running around Seattle like a headless chicken! If you'd like to try and catch me, send me an email...BUT you must have a fantastic sense of humor, a great smile (with clean teeth!) and a big heart. Bonus points for those who answer the following question correctly: When was the last time you replaced your toothbrush with a new one? My profile also indicated that I was a single parent, my height preferences, and feature preferences, etc...
6) Share your profile summary about your date...
My SO's profile said something like:
Single dad looking for someone to share rock climbing and hiking trips with, funny jokes and deepest thoughts. I teach high school science and coach swimming, so you know in advance that I have a clean background check and the patience to deal with 35 teenagers at one time! You MUST like kids and pets, because I've three young boys, a dog and a cat that thinks he's a dog.
And he answered my question about the toothbrush correctly! His answer was: "I got a new toothbrush 3 months ago from my dentist at my 6 month checkup."
7) Best idea for first date... First date is always SHORT...meet for coffee or a drink and then go home to digest it.
8) A summary of who you have met – good or bad - and what you have learned...
Well...let's see...I talked with over 100 men, and met about 2 dozen and actually "dated" about 4 men (from online) in the span of 18 months. I'll be honest here and say that I eliminated most of them based on issues of personal attraction.
There were 2 good ones: my FWB and my current SO :) All I can say is they were both perfect for me, treated me wonderfully and had everything I needed at the time that I needed it. Tall, dark, handsome with stable jobs, good income, good ethics and good heads on their shoulders, great sense of humor and awesome in the bedroom, one for 6 months and one forever :)
The so-so ones: One godblesshim, was a great guy, wonderful personality, had everything-but there was absolutely zero physical attraction for me. Another one was an eccentric millionnaire who scared me off a bit with his need to be in a committed realtionship by date #3 but I'm not sure I would classify him as "bad", just not for me.
The bad ones: There were 2 that were seriously misleading about either their age or their looks. One was extremely rude to the waitress serving us at dinner on our first date. One who was just looking for booty and one was a controlling narcissist.
1) Are you online now? ---> Um, no.
2) Which online sites are you on or have you tried? (match.com, eharmony,com etc.) ---> I have tried yahoo.com and match.com.
3) Which one do you think is the best and why? ---> I liked both, but maybe yahoo a little better.
4) Do you think online dating works? ---> Yes, I met my x-bf on yahoo.com, and one person I dated before him. I really hate calling him my x-bf. From now on he will be J.
5) Share your profile description about you... ---> N/A
6) Share your profile summary about your date... ---> N/A
7) Best idea for first date... ---> I don't know. J and I had our first date at a chain restaurant. We met at 9pm, because he had his son that weekend. He went to his mom's and met me after his son went to bed. Since it was late we ate light, it was a great date.
8) A summary of who you have met – good or bad - and what you have learned... ---> I think my luck so far was too good, and I will probably never meet another person that way again. When I'm ready to date again I will likely put another ad up, just in case that does work again, but that won't be the only way I look to meet someone. When I did that before, I was pretty good at ruling guys out from their ads or after talking to them on the phone. I had a couple guys that kept emailing me after I told them I wasn't interested, but no really bad experiences.
1) Are you online now?
Stephanie, CL of the Dating as a Single Parent board: http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-p
I AGREE - that was the best thing about eharmony - the CONTROL factor.
Keep us posted with your online stories - and thanks for sharing in my poll!!
Wow - I really love what you put in your profile and match description. It is very direct and very good - and very appealing to the right guy. Your idea of bonus points for answering the toothbrush question is very very good. I have learned a lot from your post.
I can tell you really worked hard at that - and for quite a while. Good to hear it paid off!! Thanks so much for sharing.
Why did you decide you wanted a single dad? I have been afraid of that because I have a very active life with an only child. Do you mind sharing pros and cons and how you came to that decision?
I think that if your luck can be good once, it can be good again. It is interesting that J did have his son at the start of all of that.
You obviously were able to pick a good one on the online dating scene - which is not easy - so you should give yourself a lot of credit for that!!
Hi snglmom06,
Welcome - I like your post and hope you post more with us!!
I had to say - I so so so totally agree with you on the eharmony thing about the age. I think that a lot of men don't mind a woman who is a little older. And I am having a hard time with the men who are older than me because they are much more sedentary and quite frankly, not physically appealing AT ALL to me. Now there are some exceptions so I am keeping an open mind.
I did receive a lot of matches from eharmony initially, but as you said, they are far away or do not opt to pay for membership so they don't respond. After you go through those you find that a new one only comes in every so often. Their system is good for how it helps you through the communication - I learned a lot by their suggested list of questions - and their Must Have and Can't Stand list.
I so agree with trying to find the right person just doing your interests - that is what I am doing now. I just got really burned out on the online thing; although I do search on match.com from time to time just to see if there is anyone who sounds appealing.
Your rules are GREAT - thanks for sharing!!
Oops, sorry, I misunderstood that you wanted me to put down what I wanted in my match, and actually posted what my SO’s profile said (I found my SO on yahoo.com).
I don’t really feel that I worked very hard at dating…I remember early on I made a conscious decision that I was going to try to meet people who could enrich my life in some way. I wasn’t looking for my next big relationship. I think I was different in that respect from most women who online date. Online dating was just a fraction of the way I met people too, it just happens that it is the way I met my SO.
I did not decide I specifically wanted a single dad, I just chose not to exclude that as an option. I admit at first I was a bit apprehensive about dating a guy with three kids but I liked his profile, and he was great on the phone the first time we spoke, I decided I’d give him a chance. I had no expectations whatsoever for our meeting other than just getting to know him a little better, and deciding if I would keep getting to know him or cut him loose. But from the moment our eyes met, it was like magic. It’s indescribable, so I won’t try…I just know that if I had knocked him out because he was a single dad, I would have missed out on the love of my life.
Our relationship has been mostly pros. Dating a single dad was very REFRESHING after having dated three single-never been marrieds, who just didn’t get the single parent thing. D and I were lucky that we both had every other weekend without the kids. We had that time to ourselves to date and really get to know each other without restrictions.
The only cons I can associate with dating a single dad, are the same one’s that can be associated with dating a single mom. Dating a single parent in general is going to mean different priorities, time restrictions etc. Other than that, it was hard getting used to going from doing things with just me and my girl, to doing things with all 6 of us. But we’re making it work!
If you’re going to get involved with a single dad (especially one with a young child or children) you have to be willing to embrace his kids, just like you expect him to embrace yours. You won’t get far without that.
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