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| Sat, 07-16-2005 - 7:42am |
I wanted to show this to you - this one goes in the trash for a few reasons:
1) 43 and never been married - I have found that any guy over 40 who has never been married has something seriously wrong - there are just too many opportunities in a lifetime. Plus he is a salesman - just don't like that - especially all that coupled with online dating.
2) He has "sometimes lives at home" or "no" for the "have kids?" part on his profile
3) His initial intro to me (below) is all about him - no nice note about my profile - already assuming dinner and drinks on the first date - he shows disrespect and one objective (sex) in my opinion
But he is good looking and does make good money - if I was just starting I would have been tempted to pursue. Of course you can look up his profile
Judy
Date received: July 15, 2005
Subject: wow.....
hi there you hot, sexy ,skinny thing..... dinner and drinks on las olas
jj
43-year-old man
Fort Lauderdale, FL, US
Seeking
women 28-43
Active within 24 hours
Edited 7/16/2005 7:03 pm ET ET by cl-west1745

Clem xx
Ewwwwwwwwwww!GROESSSSSSS! ICK! PFUI! Blech, blech, blech!!! Hmmmmmmmmmmm, I don't like him either. LMAO.
Judy, I get these creeps all the time. What is it with these men???? The whole sexy, baby thing is such a turn off and YET,...they still do it!!!!
Also, the whole age thing and never having been married, is SUCH a red flag for me. I just don't even respond.
Ok.. Here is my list of the week.
1. Frog
2. Frog
3. Toad
4. The slime stuck on my shoe after stepping on a night snail
5. Frog
6. Potentiallllllll - Yup, one potential guy
7. Can't say what I think, it's too rude
8. Frog
9. Frog
10. My grandfather
Number 6:
Is 41, hides his profile from stalker women. LOL
Has his own very successful computer techi business. Great looking guy, but not some gorgeous young thing that I usually have on my arm. Looks solid and responsible, not so much the pretty boy that could be my son. LOL.
Works alot and doesn't have time to meet anyone. Has two kids ages 20 & 11, was married twice, but haven't got the complete scoop on it yet. First wife was high school sweetheart, the second was an affair that he admitted to having had, that went really bad. He seems sorry for the mistake and admits the stupidity behind it, but more I do not know. (Potential red flag with that)
Also a X military brat; so same sort of background. We also have the same similiar interests.
So far, so good. The emails are flowing back and forth. He lives 20-30 minutes from where I will be living. To toooo close, not tooooo far.
Has already invited me to dinner. I've accepted.
That makes my dating outlook, to when I get to N.C. look like this:
11 coffees (unchanged)(keeps fluctuating between new and dumped)
3 happy hour drinks (3 other potentials from the last few weeks)
1 dinner date (with Mr. Potential)
4 tour guides. (more on the friend side, then the potential date)
I don't know - but after 2 years of that aggravation - with 2 years off - I can't go back to any of it.
I have permanently deleted all online profiles and now it is Hello IRL (In Real Life) - I am going to look better and get out MORE.
And I have made a pact with myself to stay totally alone until Mr. Right at the Right Time comes along.
Stay tuned..........
I realized your frustrated with it, but I wouldn't jump the gun. Don't give up, just take it all with a grain of salt. I just get on it when I feel like it, respond when I feel like it, but I have so many other things going on, that it's just something I do when I have a few minutes of nothing to do. I don't get depressed or take it serious as I once did. I used to get so MAD and SAD and just plain sick of it all, but now I just go with the flow. If I think I like a profile I respond, if I don't, I don't. I don'T owe anyone an explanation and I won'T. I figure, if they read my profile, that 95% of the men who try to chat me up, will realize, they are not my type and should NOT try to contact me. So why should I give them the nicey nice and give them a explanation. I stated what's my type, they aren't so they aren't LISTENING. lol.
I would keep on doing the online thing. It's not going to hurt. Just think: If something happens, it happens, if not, well, you aren't just relying on the internet. Right? You go out, you do your things, you fulfill your life already. The internet thing is just something you do, because it can'T hurt. You NEVER know. Again, both my cousins met their husbands on the internet. They swear by it. It COULD happen. I don't really believe it will for me this way, but I do it. Trying to stay open minded. lol
Thanks for your encouragement. I do know of 2 people who have met their spouses online. And of course I will be listening to your stories and seeing how you do, Cat.
But for now I am OFFline. Just sick of it - could not trust it or go on any more blind dates. I think this will encourage me to be more social and get out of the house more. Having a home office is great in so many ways - but it does tend to "keep you in the house."
The best things in my life have evolved on their own - they just happened. And I just know that I will find the right SO for me this way, too. I think I have come to grips with being alone a little better and I feel that I know what it looks like when the right person comes along - he is into you and carrying half of his weight. I have always tried to do too much to make it happen and I don't want to go there again. No more "settlements" for me.
Right now I am just working on being all I can be - getting away with murder until I have someone to have to negotiate with ;-) - enjoying DS, seeing all the movies I want to see, going on the trips I want to take, doing stuff around my house and shopping.