Only me!

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Only me!
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Wed, 08-10-2005 - 6:37am

I struck up a conversation with a guy I met though OLD (not either of the two mentioned in my other post) He mentioned that he recently moved here from SC. I asked him where, because I lived there for 15 years until my divorce. Not only was he born and raised in the next town over from me, HE KNOWS MY XH!!! He didn't say much about him though. I hope that's a good thing.

Who else could find someone who knows their ex 500 miles away! ROTFL!!!

Kelly

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Registered: 02-19-2004
Wed, 08-10-2005 - 8:09am

Well, not far away, but I talked to a guy from OLD once and as it turns out, his best friend worked with my ex-h and had been at a happy hour and my ex-h was talking about his ex-w (me) about how he caught his ex-w (me) sleeping with various men, sometimes more than one at a time, and sometimes women, in our house, in our bed and while he tried to get past it and forgive me the last time he caught me it was just too much and he had to leave me (it is true that I had an affair and my ex-h knows about it, but but this was more than a little embellishment). Apparently my ex-h also told this crowd of co-workers that I would frequently go to gay bars and sometimes he would go with me, and he was using this as the background while trying to convince the group to go with him to a gay bar (I have suspicions for a long time that my ex-h is gay btw). The OLD guy also tells me that my ex-h and a group of co-workers go out and drink all the time and one happy hour ended up with a midnight trip to atlantic city where only one person even made it in the next day (this was a brand new job for my ex-h).

Of course the OLD guy wondered if some or all of this was true, and had serious doubts about meeting me after this.

I was livid. I couldn't believe how this stuff got back to me and if it could get to me it could get to parents or teachers at my dd's school, who knew who else he was telling this bull too, and what else he was saying about me. I had several long talks with my therapist before confronting my ex-h. He admited saying those things at first, and then later tried to deny it (which was very weird, the denial came about a week after the admission). I made him promise to never talk about me like that for all the reasons that should have occured to him before and so far as I know it hasn't happened again, but it's been a while since I was OLDing so who knows.




Edited 8/10/2005 9:16 am ET ET by firstamendment

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Wed, 08-10-2005 - 10:05am

That is really interesting!!

Keep us posted.

It sounds like you are meeting a lot of interesting people on OLD and this should be encouraging for you. What is the age group you are looking for?

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Registered: 04-11-2004
Wed, 08-10-2005 - 10:15pm

Wow, First, doesn't that make you mad?!

Stephanie, CL of the Dating as a Single Parent board: http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-p

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Wed, 08-10-2005 - 10:25pm
Oh yes, I was a mess when I first learned of it. It took me a week, the help of my friend and a phone call and a visit to my therapist before I could confront my ex-h about it. By the time I did it just felt good to know he knew I knew. He felt bad he deserved that.

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Thu, 08-11-2005 - 8:25am

That is absolutely HORRIBLE! It shows your exh is totally immature and more worried about his ego than anything else.

Good thing you are not with him anymore!!

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