Oops! I did it again!

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Oops! I did it again!
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Sun, 04-10-2005 - 4:59pm

I ACCIDENTLY, I swear! I didn't do anything, I just smiled when he came up to tell me, that I was beautiful and I said "your drunk, but your cute."
But it happened! A gorgeous, sexy, pass out on the floor man. Well, young man, hmm, just man. Darn it! He turned out to be 21 again! Why does that happen to me? Why do I get all these young guys hitting on me. I haven't had one guy over 33 go out with me. I keep getting below 30, but the last time I stopped dating I dated that one 21 yr old and thought it was just a freak accident. Now, after months of not going out, I met another one. As sweet as can be. My girlfriends couldn't believe it. They are all 25-28 and here he is going for a woman 12yrs older. My daughter is only 10yrs younger then him. BUT! LADIES! You would be proud. We hung out for the night and got along great, but I told him I wasn't interested. Told him about my girls, that he has a life ahead of him and i don't date young guys anymore. So, he accepted it like a gentlemen and then he asked if he could just hang out for the night with me and I said yes. I did give him my number, but that was it. I don't expect him to call. Noooo, nothing happened. Ok, maybe he did get a kiss off me, because I couldn't resist that part, but otherwise, I let it go and I think he did too. I would really be suprised if he called. I was really flattered, but today, I realized how glad I was, that I did tell him no. :-)

Sighhh............

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Sun, 04-10-2005 - 7:31pm
Good girl!!
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Mon, 04-11-2005 - 10:21am

This is very common. My biggest "fans" are much younger guys (like 10 yrs younger). I think it's because they are younger and are willing to get shot down. Every age group finds you attractive. If a 21 yo finds you attractive a 41 yo does too.

20-somethings are not afraid of the mess that comes along with a relationship. For them, they are living in the present and not worried about where the relationship will go. An older man would think about these things and might not want to start anything because of relationship issues.

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Mon, 04-11-2005 - 11:22am

Sometimes I think younger guys see older women as "fun but not wanting anything from me"...whereas women in their age range may be looking for someone to raise a family with. So if they're not ready for that, they avoid them.


But some men just like older women.


Add to this the fact that you probably don't look your age. :)


I had a waiter (mexican) last night guessing my daughter's age, and then trying to guess mine... she's 13, he said " that must make you...thirty something?"...I smiled and said "thirty something, that sounds fine...yes...mas o menos"....


HIspanic men are such flirts.


Someone who waited on me last week showed up at the hispanic church too...a different fellow. He did the guess the daughter's age game as well. BUT, he got closer (he guessed 15, she's 13) and he is probably closer to my age. The family he stayed with for a couple of weeks said he's very sweet and he can COOK!...I might be interested in him. He has a son, but I don't think he's married. HE was very nice to me and remembered me from the restaurant.


The sea is crowded with fish these days. :)


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Tue, 04-12-2005 - 4:57am

Your totally right in all aspects! I always get the wierdest looks, when they try to figure out how old I am with a pre-teen standing next to me. Most guys think I am 26-28 yrs old. Sometimes I wish I weren't so honest. LOL-
Anyhow...

It is odd, but your right: Their are QUITE a lot of fish in the sea lately. Aren't their?

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Tue, 04-12-2005 - 10:58am

The swimming is crowded, yep. When you get particular about what you want they seem to spring up from everywhere, don't they?


But Cat, you don't have to be DIShonest...iI guess my policy is

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Tue, 04-12-2005 - 11:28am
Ok Candi! Now you gotta tell me your secret on how you handle that. I had the problem this weekend again. I said, NO, I don't think I need to talk about my age. Then they just started mid-twenties and kept going and going. They were like " I don't care." I said, "Well, if you don't, why ask?" I mean, I actually would like to just leave age out of it sometimes. Yeah know? When you meet someone you just really get along with, then it doesn't matter if he's 21 or 61. I don't feel I ever have to ask a man, so what is up with that? Is it me, or is it just rude to ask right off the bat? I think alot of the online dating and stuff that makes you disclose your age, just really yuk. I'm not saying that just because I am 33 that I have a problem with my age, because I love being 33, but I have ALWAYS had a real problem disclosing it. How do you do it and keep it off topic for awhile if you like the guy?
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Tue, 04-12-2005 - 11:35am

I just never say what age I am. Guys do the guessing thing...say "35?" or "thirty something" and I nod and smile and repeat their guess and say "that sounds right, yes...that's good". So I'm not confirming nor denying. I don't think age is all that important, I think who you are is. If it's a huge issue to a man, he will back off at this point. If it's not, he won't. And I never ask their age either, it's only fair. I can usually find out their age on the net if I really want to. They could do the same. I don't lie on the personals, etc.


If a man is going to make assumptions about me because of my age, he's not thoughtful enough for me to want to be with him. If a guy is going to judge me unworthy because of a number, I don't want him anyway...so let them think what they like.


I'll probably outlive most men 7-10 years younger than me anyway, statistically. And no one is guaranteed a live mate for any particular amount of time...especially not right now. There are lots of dangerous places in the world.

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Tue, 04-12-2005 - 11:38am
I CAN'T LIE, so I really like how you do it. I am going to start trying that. Thanks for the tip! ;)
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Tue, 04-12-2005 - 12:41pm
ok, let me know how it goes. I'd enjoy hearing.