oops, sorry: What was the worst/best

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oops, sorry: What was the worst/best
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Sun, 02-13-2005 - 6:00pm

Valentine you ever had?

What was the best V-day you ever had?

What was the worst V-day you ever had?

What was the worst present you ever got?

What was the best?

annnnddddddddddddddd.............

What the sexiest thing you ever did on that day for your Valentine?

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Tue, 02-15-2005 - 12:14pm

The grass is always greener sweetheart. ;)

Well I did get all dolled up. Did my hair the way he always compliments me on, wore the big hoop earrings i hate, he loves. And for what?
A really ugly card he obviously bought on his way home at 11 o clock at night because he was a half an hour late and some peanut m&M's and a big Hershey bar.
Top that off with the fact he came home and immediately went to the fridge to get his dinner and heat it up, not to come see if I was awake and I lost it. I started bawling before he even gave me the ugly card.

Oh well. Life goes on right?
At least I have a guy huh? Trust me, it's days like today, I'd rather be single.

Hugs
Tara

 

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Tue, 02-15-2005 - 12:45pm

Oh darling! What do you think the chances are of James making it all up to you? Has he done this every year or is he starting to slag? Some men just never get it. I'm so sorry! You better give him some serious heat for that!

The worst present I ever got was when I cooked this massive gourmet dinner from Bon Appetit recipe with the whole chocolate covered strawberries and all and I slaved in the damn kitchen ALL day. Wore the cutest little nightie, made my roommates get out and all. 6 hrs later, he shows up, food cold, I was crying and he was holding this huge Cactus, because they had no flowers left. I mean we are talking a two foot cactus that had these strange red sprouting things that looked like mini cactuses, but in reality it looked like infected penis's. I am serious. Has anyone seen those yet? I cried and cried and cried. Year later (this was Alex's father by the way), before I moved to germany, I had this great time, chopping off all the little red penisis, before I threw the whole thing out (it was over 3ft by then). It made me feel like Loretta (lorraine?) Bobbit.

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Tue, 02-15-2005 - 12:52pm

It sounds like your issues go much deeper than one night. Sorry to hear you had such a bad night. I would feel sad, too.

Why was he working so late?




Edited 2/15/2005 12:57 pm ET ET by west1745
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Tue, 02-15-2005 - 1:01pm

I don't know. He's so man like when it comes to this stuff. And stubborn.
And honestly, what's he going to do to make it up? It really hurt that he put zero thought into it. All I was looking for was a little effort.
He's gotten so much better than he was when we first started dating. Like he never understood giving flowers cuz they die, but I like them, so he gets them for me sometimes. Once he even picked me wildflowers which was THE BEST! But like my sister said, it took her 10 years to get her husband to really get the "effort" thing.

I've never seen a cactus like that but jeez, that sounds like a strange gift to give someone! And I can totally understand what you're describing. How therapuetic! I brought my M&Ms and Hershey bar in here to my co-workers today because honestly, I'd probably eat the whole bag tonight! So I'd have zits, gain 5 lbs and be upset. ;)

Tara

 

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Tue, 02-15-2005 - 1:08pm

Huge Hugs Tara. I am sorry yesterday was such a let down.


I wish all of us gals could be ok without this one day of the year. I know James has done some really sweet things for you unexpectedly when it WASN'T valentines day. Still, it isn't THAT hard to please your sweetie on a special day, even if you do not like being "pressured".


Hugs. He's got a lot of making up to do.

Becky

Becky

 

 

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Tue, 02-15-2005 - 1:09pm

He works second shift 2-10:30.

Honestly, he drives me nuts but he's a good guy. But (and maybe I just want too much) I want that little extra now and then. He isn't the most romantic person in the world, his idea of romance is more what i would consider raunchy. And I feel like if I give him what he wants 75% of the time, he should give me what I want sometimes too. I don't think that's unreasonable.

Tara

 

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Tue, 02-15-2005 - 1:48pm

I see. A lot of guys are not romantic. They just don't get it that the tiniest of effort can make us happy. Is he that way on most holidays?

I had a funny response to this saying "Like he never understood giving flowers cuz they die..." when I was out the other night. This engaged couple was discussing the same thing - he could not stand giving flowers because they don't last very long while she loves getting them. And to this, I said, "Flowers last longer than other things!!" ;-)

Everyone thought that was funny!!

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Wed, 02-16-2005 - 5:28pm

Gosh, I'm so behind, but this is the first opportunity all week I've had to come here.

I wanted to answer this because I really did have a great Valentine's Day. The first reason being my kids. They made me the most wonderful cards at school. They were booklets stapled onto construction paper. And they were like statements they had to fill in like ____ is your favorite person in the world. They were so sweet, they brought tears to my eyes. Plus, I got to spend the morning with them at school, which at 7 they love. So, once again, kids can certainly brighten up a holiday.

The second reason was that the kids were with their dad this weekend, and I got to see Mark, which was a total surprise. He was out of town Thursday and Friday. I knew he was getting in late Friday, but I figured he would just want to stay in Saturday. He called me from work Saturday and said he wanted to see me. He tried to get reservations at a local Italian that is supposed to have killer lasagna, but they were booked. So he put in an order for us and we carried it out. Then Sunday morning we drove up to this outlet mall in Wisconsin that he visited when he was in Detroit last week. We had breakfast and we saw the movie Hitch, which was good. Considering I wasn't even expecting to see him at all, it was a very nice surprise.

No, he didn't get me flowers, but he's really not that kind of a guy. He's more the type to buy me something just because, not because it's a holiday. Two weeks ago when I saw him he gave me this box. I asked him why he was giving me something. He said that he was shopping and he saw this and he thought it would look nice on me, so he bought it -- for no reason at all. It was a very pretty skirt from J. Crew, and he actually got the right size. That, in itself is a minor miracle to me. No man I ever dated was good at buying me clothes. Some guys could hardly dress themselves, much less me. So, I'm always impressed when a man attempts to buy clothes for women.

I really can't remember any bad Valentine's Days or bad gifts. My exh always got me something for Valentine's Day, but we never made a huge deal out of it. After we were divorced, none of the guys I dated were very romantic that way, so I never made much of the day.

To answer the last question -- about what sexy thing did you do for your valentine -- well, I wore the skirt that he gave me, and I bought something very sexy to go underneath my outfit -- which was a surprise and a big hit!

Donna

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Wed, 02-16-2005 - 9:18pm
Wow Donna - you sound like you are in such a good state right now. I love your Valentine story and how you view the situation with the gifts. I also love the story about your kids. I feel exactly the same way!!
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Thu, 02-17-2005 - 9:58am

See, that's a great gift. He thought of it all himself and he totally bought something you wouldn't expect him to and it FIT! haha.
That's great.

And the story about your kids is so sweet! Good for you!

Tara