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Fri, 10-19-2007 - 6:25pm

Tell me i didn't steal her man... Here's the story, i went out with WW since she didnt' work this morning. We had a blast playing pool and singing karaoke songs together.. like Walk Like An Egyptian and Leave the Pieces. She started talking to a guy i'll call BrokenToe-BrokenHeart (brokentoe for short). She said, "i found a rebound guy"... they played a game of pool together. He asked her to save him from an old lady who was flirting with him. WW was excited about this guy saying he just broke up with his girlfriend and had a broken toe. I guess she was thinking he was vulnerable, i'm not sure. At about the same time, a cute new guy started flirting with me, too. I'll nickname him Penn (since he's from Pennsylvania). He wanted to sing a duet with me, so we picked "Close your eyes". he explained that he was new to the area and wanted to know where the good spots were, what there is to do here, blah blah blah. Everything was going great for WW and me... the whole point of a wing woman is so that we both find a guy to flirt with etc.

And Penn was cute, too. At one point, he came up to me and gave me a huge kiss. Wow. i thought, who doesn't like a good kiss (now and then...lol). I told WW she should kiss her guy.. i was like, Go For It. She looked a little shy and said no. So, I told BrokenToe "you should kiss her." He said, no he didn't want to get slapped. But i kept joking him.. kiss her. kiss her. So, finally he did try... but she wasn't in the mood and said "no i'm not kissing you." Oops, my bad.. since i put him up to it. I thought she would get a kick out of it.. guess not.

After Penn went home, BrokenToe started talking to ME about his exgirlfriend, and other (kinda boring) stuff like how jaded he feels because of his breakup... And in the mean time, WW went back to the pool tables and never came back. She was having her own emotional issues because of her recent seperation from her husband (understandable).

When she left she didn't say goodbye to either me or brokentoe. and we weren't flirting talking it was very matter of fact stuff... AND i guess he felt like she blew him off when she didn't want that kiss. Brokentoe kept talking to me so i kept talking back...

So in your opinion did i steal her man? it was pretty innocent from my perspective but didn't know if i should have just ignored brokentoe altogether.... The next time i see WW i'll tell her that he just went on and on about his breakup but that i wasn't interested. Okay so i did get his phone number after she left, but not because i plan to call....just because i get phone numbers, kwim.

As far as Penn, i got his phone number too. But again, i don't know that i'll call but he has my number too and i'll probably leave it in his court. Although,he actually wasn't that great of a kisser.

In other news, I texted Alaska (as opposed to calling him) last night to see if he wanted to join our pool games.. but he texted back saying that he had to work early but was free Saturday.. hmmm was he trying to see if i'd hold saturday open for him??? he texted back, that's a good sign right. Alaska was the cutest out of all the guys this week.

Loonybunny

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Fri, 10-19-2007 - 8:09pm

No you didnt steal him :) she should have came and tried to get his attention back!! I am a flirter...lol I would have went and competed for the attention :P

Anyways..sounds like a fun night!!

Keep Sat open for him! ;)

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Fri, 10-19-2007 - 11:11pm

Just checking... thanks.

I got a text message from WW tonight asking me if i was going out again. I suppose that means we're good.

Loonybunny ~ who, btw, isn't going out again tonight.

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Sat, 10-20-2007 - 10:32am

No, you didn't steal him. How could you steal him from her when she never even HAD him before? AND- how can you

~shrimpy

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Sat, 10-20-2007 - 11:54am
Nah girl, your good.
 
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Sun, 10-21-2007 - 5:45pm

I agree with the others that you didn't steal anyone because they didn't belong to anyone to begin with and you didn't even "get him" in the end. But I see she has called so that is good. Maybe you just want to be careful not to spend too much time with her?

Have you heard any good news on the job opportunity yet? Did MrAlaska ever contact you again?

Keep us posted!

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Mon, 10-22-2007 - 12:28pm

What about the unspoken code of not chasing after the same guy... If i say to my friend "I've got my eye on that guy", if she's a friend, she'll back off that guy, right... I know it's bar hunt stuff... but still ... there are some common courtesies to live by when going out with a group of girls.

But it's clear that WW and i have the same taste in men... so eventually we're going to like the same guy... for us, i believe we'll just have to communicate and agree on who's fair game and who isn't...

we ran into something similar this weekend.. i'll post later.

thanks for the input.. And i totally agree that my friendship is more important than a guy i'm only flirting with....

Loonybunny

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Mon, 10-22-2007 - 3:30pm

My opinion is that a guy should never come b/w freindship - obviously. & certainly not one either of you just met. I dont have many single girls i go out with who like the same type -- my 2 friends who go out on the "bar hunt" (lol) with me ... 1 is a little younger & way shorter, like very clean cut, younger, shorter,

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Mon, 10-22-2007 - 7:13pm

Okay, WW and I went out together on Saturday night... the topic of brokentoe never came up because there are just too many new guys to mess with..lol...

I asked her if she wanted to try some new places with me and she didn't... And i was about to get a group to leave with me, when Alaska showed up.. "okay, we can stay" i thought.

Alaska said hello when he walked in.. he said, i told you tonight was my going-out night. He and his friends sat up at the bar. I talked to them several times in between playing pool. They are a wild bunch. And when i asked WW if she thought they were cute, she said Alaska's the only cute one in the bunch. :-(

So... when Michigan came in and he sat up at the bar. And WW said she caught him checking her out all night i thought "he's had my number for weeks and hasn't called me... obviously he isn't interested in me." So, i told her, go up and talk to him. Michigan is HOT!!!! Think the Italian Prince from the Bachelor HOT! WW was shy at first but she eventually got to talk to him. I still need to ask her if she got his number. But she did tell me that she thought he wasn't making much conversation with her...

Meanwhile, I chatted and danced with Alaska and his friends. They made fun of my librarian glasses but i think they meant the glasses were sexy... Alaska said he works six nights a week.. he seemed interested in seeing me again, but with his work schedule... it might not be for a while. They were a fun group of guys.

As for Friday, I went to another coworker party... everyone joked me about dancing on the counter... a joke that will never die. But on the bright side, i chatted with the band, and they invited me to sing with them at practice on Wednesday. In fact, one of the members said, why haven't you ever practiced with us before? So, i'll keep you posted on that...

Thanks for all the opinions!

Loonybunny