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oscillatory feelings?
| Wed, 08-22-2007 - 9:02am |
Hi,
I am a lurker basically.. I wanted to know if anyof you ladies feel your feelings for your SO stronger at times than the others.. I have a past ( no kids)..but I seem to be still hurting from it.. I m not sure if it is the past or hormones ,,but my feelings for my guy seems to be going up and down..This is all for no fault of his..
share your thoughts

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If he is fit and in great health then he is the same as someone your age. I would date older if the guy was fit and in great health. Wrinkles are good - they mean he is experienced and wise (hopefully) and has his act together. And if you are younger then yo get big points to him without even having to do anything special - it just makes you more valuable!
I think the only question now - is do YOU want kids? Because if you do then you need to find out if he feels the same way. Because I don't think you can make "wanting kids" sit on the back burner or to just go away - that is a huge need that cannot be ignored.
Otherwise everything sounds okay - don't over think it now. I really don't think the age is a deal breaker.
Sometimes I think we work too hard to find THE ONE or a SOULMATE on paper right from the beginning. But I think the key is to figure out if a potential suitor has something that would make them NOT a match - otherwise give them a chance and see what happens over time. And then you let TIME make them the one for you - develop trust, a good friendship and see if they are there for you when you need them to be.
Otherwise I think we all drive ourselves crazy looking for this magical connection and a shopping list that is subhuman and ridiculous.
I bet if we all looked at our lives 10 years ago and wrote what we wanted to happen, we would never think to ask for all the wonderful things that have actually happened.
Hi all, Thanks again for your inputs.
Yes I want kids very much.. He said he wants them too.. ( Ima not sure if he says that because he knows how much I want them..) . Also I asked him why he likes me so much.. and why he considers me seriously.. he did say among many other reasons, that I could give him a kid of his own.. So I assume he really wants kids of his own..
He is kind of guy who was absent from dating scene. He said he wont mind dating women with kids, if he liked the person, but he said he still loves to have a kid with the woman he fell in love.. So yes we both like to have kids..
In the beginning of our relationship, he had ED (only when he was around me) .. and docs figured that was just coz he was alone all these years and the instrument was "not used" enough ..lol.. well we worked through that successfully, he got his first erection on valentines day with me ..isnt that cute..Now that issue is solved.
Again my qn is how would kids feel about having a dad who is much older than their friends dads.. Like by the time we have kids if he is in late 40s.. would our kids loose anything by not having a young dad. I know he will retire by the time they are in teen age.. but then we could save enough early on.
I agree with cl-West and others on all the great points.. I know I shouldnt look for someone picture perfect, he does seem perfect for me. He pampers me and spoils me even. He volunteers to do things for me to make everything easy for me and I know he really cares for me.
I would give it more time to decide.. Another issue is I still think about my ex, I feel I could give him more chance (although we had zero chemistry and we never had sex even .. I know sounds silly, but I am attached to him). So in every way taking time decide would be a good idea.
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