I think he means that the personality of who he is with is second to their appearance. I am not sure if he is using the term second nature correctly.
A lot of guys say that. In my opinion it is borderline "he has issues" - how is the rest of his profile? If he had a few good common interests I might give him a chance to talk on the phone. I wonder how long he has been divorced? I am not sure if I like how he says he is very common. None of us are common - we all have at least one unique and special attribute if not several that makes us different and very good for someone.
I never like the ones who say NO GAMES - because it makes me wonder what they did to get those games. Usually they want a lot of sex but don't want to spend a lot of time with someone or they have a general stingy outlook.
Lord Liz you sound like me with that "I just hate to see people so down on themselves. It's sad." I end up trying to boost a guy up than getting to know him more closely which in turn makes me end up being more like a friend and not getting into a relationship with them. Not a bad thing but it doesn't help the social life either! lol I've always been one to be a cheerleader and pick-me-upper.
I totally agree! I tend to be a good cheerleader and pick-me-upper... but I don't want to have to do too much of that within a relationship. I don't want to have to constantly be feeding the other just to keep him up. A partner should be able to hold his own, just like I should be able to hold my own as well. No one would want to be in a relationship with ME if I was down on myself all the time and needed 'feeding' to be normal!
No one needs that. It's too draining.
Liz- I think you did good to not go biting on his fishing line! I wouldn't either! He doesn't sound like he's fully ready for being a true partner to anyone- and he doesn't even realize it. He's just hoping to find someone who can keep him afloat.
I think he means that the personality of who he is with is second to their appearance. I am not sure if he is using the term second nature correctly.
A lot of guys say that. In my opinion it is borderline "he has issues" - how is the rest of his profile? If he had a few good common interests I might give him a chance to talk on the phone. I wonder how long he has been divorced? I am not sure if I like how he says he is very common. None of us are common - we all have at least one unique and special attribute if not several that makes us different and very good for someone.
I never like the ones who say NO GAMES - because it makes me wonder what they did to get those games. Usually they want a lot of sex but don't want to spend a lot of time with someone or they have a general stingy outlook.
Lord Liz you sound like me with that "I just hate to see people so down on themselves. It's sad." I end up trying to boost a guy up than getting to know him more closely which in turn makes me end up being more like a friend and not getting into a relationship with them. Not a bad thing but it doesn't help the social life either! lol I've always been one to be a cheerleader and pick-me-upper.
Jennifer
I totally agree! I tend to be a good cheerleader and pick-me-upper... but I don't want to have to do too much of that within a relationship. I don't want to have to constantly be feeding the other just to keep him up. A partner should be able to hold his own, just like I should be able to hold my own as well. No one would want to be in a relationship with ME if I was down on myself all the time and needed 'feeding' to be normal!
No one needs that. It's too draining.
Liz- I think you did good to not go biting on his fishing line! I wouldn't either! He doesn't sound like he's fully ready for being a true partner to anyone- and he doesn't even realize it. He's just hoping to find someone who can keep him afloat.
~shrimpy
~shrimpy
"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.
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