The other guy's profile

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Registered: 08-23-2006
The other guy's profile
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Thu, 07-26-2007 - 9:34pm
I mentioned it in my other post, but I thought I'd put it here too.
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Registered: 03-15-2004
Fri, 07-27-2007 - 1:37am
No way. I would be totally turned off by that profile.

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Fri, 07-27-2007 - 7:19am

I think he means that the personality of who he is with is second to their appearance. I am not sure if he is using the term second nature correctly.

A lot of guys say that. In my opinion it is borderline "he has issues" - how is the rest of his profile? If he had a few good common interests I might give him a chance to talk on the phone. I wonder how long he has been divorced? I am not sure if I like how he says he is very common. None of us are common - we all have at least one unique and special attribute if not several that makes us different and very good for someone.

I never like the ones who say NO GAMES - because it makes me wonder what they did to get those games. Usually they want a lot of sex but don't want to spend a lot of time with someone or they have a general stingy outlook.

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Registered: 08-23-2006
Fri, 07-27-2007 - 8:14am
See, that's his whole profile!
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Registered: 01-05-2004
Fri, 07-27-2007 - 9:12am

Lord Liz you sound like me with that "I just hate to see people so down on themselves. It's sad." I end up trying to boost a guy up than getting to know him more closely which in turn makes me end up being more like a friend and not getting into a relationship with them. Not a bad thing but it doesn't help the social life either! lol I've always been one to be a cheerleader and pick-me-upper.

Jennifer

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Registered: 06-04-2004
Fri, 07-27-2007 - 10:04am

I totally agree! I tend to be a good cheerleader and pick-me-upper... but I don't want to have to do too much of that within a relationship. I don't want to have to constantly be feeding the other just to keep him up. A partner should be able to hold his own, just like I should be able to hold my own as well. No one would want to be in a relationship with ME if I was down on myself all the time and needed 'feeding' to be normal!

No one needs that. It's too draining.

Liz- I think you did good to not go biting on his fishing line! I wouldn't either! He doesn't sound like he's fully ready for being a true partner to anyone- and he doesn't even realize it. He's just hoping to find someone who can keep him afloat.

~shrimpy

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"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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