Our First Dinner/Date
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Our First Dinner/Date
| Thu, 03-20-2008 - 8:45am |
I went out to dinner with my "repair guy" last night. We had a great time and talked about a lot of things. He even brought my son up and said I'm wondering how you plan to have relationships and involve your son. I said why are you wondering about that? He said I know what it's like to have a mother who dates guys and you

Steph
Welcome - and sorry it took so long to answer your post. Somehow it slipped to the second page before we could answer.
I like how you handled his questions about your child. And I like how honest he was with regards to his feelings of concern and wanting to accept your child. And it is good he was honest about what his friends and mom said and how he handled them.
With regards to his age - 21 is young these days. But I can think of a few 40 somethings that are not as mature as he has sounded so far.
I guess with the age in mind and the fact that he is a guy (LOL!) I would be sure he wants a relationship with you before you get intimate - unless you want to be confused and wondering whether you mean something or are a roll in the hay for the evening. That is what I would do.
Take your time to get to know him and date him and see if you like him and think that he has good qualities as a person. If he is settled in his life and stuff like that.
With regards to the kiss - maybe he was not sure of how he felt or maybe he really wants another date. You just have to wait and see - the ball is in his court - and really you do want a guy who wants to date you and who wants to ask you out - not someone who goes because you prod him.
And with regards to his friends - don't worry - if you two work out you will meet them in time and it won't matter what they think - just be kind and act like it doesn't matter. I am sure they had his best interest in mind. But you of course, will prove them wrong if given the chance!!
Keep us posted - hope this helps! Time is what will answer your questions.
At 21 I am sure his friends are going to tell him to stay away from a single mom--I think that is pretty typical BUT if he grew up in a single parent household and HE is ready for this type of relationship then he won't listen.
April
He did call me the next day (yesterday) and
QueenBun