Overheard BF's Convo w/ his Friends Wife

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Registered: 09-18-2006
Overheard BF's Convo w/ his Friends Wife
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Wed, 11-08-2006 - 12:42pm
Last night around 1130pm, my BF got a phone call (she called once b4 a while ago but we were watching a movie) so the convo didn't last long. But last night it sort of did, she greets him, "Hi Sweetie" I can somewhat hear what they are talking about and she says something about the g/f and he says, "Well, Um, she's sitting right next to me" - subject change - talking and talking. To me it doesn't sound like her husband knows she calls him? But I remember before we started dating he said something like "My friend would trust me naked in bed with his wife" and this happens to be that wife. The conversation ends with him saying, "Well, I have to cut you off" and she says, "Ok talk to you later, baby". To me that just doesn't seem appropriate - or maybe I am just being paranoid. I have never met this couple - nor know the background they have. I just think that's weird - it's not something I would do.
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Registered: 05-13-2005
Wed, 11-08-2006 - 4:06pm

Well for right now it is just a phone conversation. I mean, some girls do use language like that. I wouldn't necessarily like it but I would let it go.

Now, if all of a sudden he is getting a lot of strange calls or pulling the disappearing act then I would have cause for alarm.

Maybe one day you could bring up the nature of their relationship if he mentions them again. Something to the effect of - wow - she holds you in the highest of confidence - have you always been close friends?

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Registered: 02-08-2006
Wed, 11-08-2006 - 9:10pm

I'm not sure I'd like the way she acted, but I have to give your bf kudos for the way he behaved!

If he were trying to hide something, he'd have gone in another room, or let it go to voicemail so you couldn't hear the conversation. He also would have made up some other story about who it was, if he were guilty of any wrongdoing, in my opinion.

I have close friends in a couple, and if I call and the husband answers the phone, I chat with him. I don't call him honey or baby or anything but his name, but sometimes our conversations end up being fairly long.

I'm not saying this is that way, but it doesn't hurt to have another opinion, and I think at least right now it's innocent. Maybe she's just super friendly and calls everyone pet names? I've known some peopl (men and women) who seem to do that, but I can see now how it could be taken the wrong way if overheard.

Moody


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Registered: 09-18-2006
Thu, 11-09-2006 - 9:28am
Thanks, your opinions are very helpful and I appreciate it very much. I talked to him yesterday about it and feel a lot better. He says she does that to everyone and he thinks it's too much. She moved out of state and he thinks she's homesick b/c she doesn't have any friends. They've known each other for a while and she knows the whole story with his ex g/f (which wasn't a good story for him). I was in the military so I know how it is w/o friends and calling everyone on your list when you're feeling lonely. However, I don't think I could every call any one sweetie or baby like that. I know some older ppl that would say, "Could you pass me that napkin over there, Baby?" If I were a guy and my wife did that I don't think I would be too happy about it? That's just me - I guess I can't get upset when other ppl are that way.
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Registered: 11-09-2006
Thu, 11-09-2006 - 7:50pm
Trust your instincts! They're there for a reason...they're always right! Good Luck!
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Registered: 06-30-2003
Fri, 11-10-2006 - 9:31am

It is weird. I knew a guy like that. He was way too close with his best friend's wife. I mean, it was like a threesome.

I wouldn't be comfortable with that situation at all. He's probably not the right kind of guy for you.

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Registered: 08-03-2004
Sat, 11-11-2006 - 12:39am
That is a major giant, waving red flag in my honest opinion. Maybe I'm skeptical because I've been cheated on, and I listened to my ex explain everything away time and time again. All I'm saying is watch him and her very closely. If you smell something rotten, then kick him to the curb.
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