Overreacted or Just-Deserved?

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Overreacted or Just-Deserved?
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Tue, 02-14-2006 - 2:54pm

Ok, so I blew my top a little per Instant Messenger (can you do that? I can! LOL) . This little scenario has been going on for a while and I finally decided to just let this guy have it. Now I keep wondering, did he deserve it or am I overreacting? Not that it matters, because it's done, but I am just wondering from a female standpoint if I am right or wrong to tell blow and tell him to get lost. Kind of a etiquette reminder for the future......


I have been dating this guy on and off

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Tue, 02-14-2006 - 9:12pm

Hey Cat,

Sorry you had to go through this. I don't think you are off track at all. I think you totally called the right shot on this one - maybe you just didn't trust yourself and your inner voice right off the bat.

When they come off right off the bat as wanting sex, and especially when they are just having sex with other women, that is all they want and all they see you for. You were totally right to sense this and take offense with it because it is not what you want or will accept now.

I think you did good to say your intentions and I see no harm or problem with getting mad when he clearly did not respect your wishes when you gave him another chance and verbalized your feelings/needs.

Dumpola - into the pond.

I pray that you have the patience to keep weeding through all of these toads and not settling. Of course you are not some desparate single mom. You are a very strong and beautiful women who is going places.

Trust yourself. And stick to what you want. It will get you something very good in the end.

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Tue, 02-14-2006 - 10:30pm

Poor Cat!


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Registered: 04-17-2003
Wed, 02-15-2006 - 12:37pm
Kick him to the curb ASAP! You deserve alot better than that, so don't put up with that crap for one minute!
Stephanie
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Wed, 02-15-2006 - 2:34pm
You are NOT high maintenence, you expect to be treated decently, which is all things good and right. Besides, it is abundantly clear this guy is out for one thing. Texasmom is right, kick him to the curb. FWIW. I had an old boyfriend tell me "all men are pigs" and while that is not true of all men and is not even completely true of any one man acting piggishly at a given moment, unfortunately it is all too often true and I think you're seeing it right now. He decided to take another crack at you - you are presenting a challenge. You are doing the right thing, listening to your gut, don't stop now - whatever the right thing is for you.
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Thu, 02-16-2006 - 10:24am

Thanks ya'll! The more I thought about it, the more I agreed that the guy was just scum from the bottom of the pond. I rather be alone, because even if I were to have done anything, I would of still been kicked to the curb, alone and on top of that feeling embarrassed and used. I am glad that I can give someone another chance, BUT also learn to not put up with any blank, blank blank from them. :) Even a year ago, I would of been a door mat. I really put

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Fri, 02-17-2006 - 8:03am
Now you are on the right track!! This is such a different Cat than the one who first came here. I believe you will find the right one for you and not settle just to please him. Keep us posted. It is fun to see you back.
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