as a parent & dating again when thing...

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as a parent & dating again when thing...
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Wed, 06-25-2008 - 1:22pm

as a parient & dating again when things get serious would you whether

live with bf or gf
or get married.

You will not be able to change your vote.




Edited 6/25/2008 1:24 pm ET by jenliveswithherbf

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Registered: 06-25-2008
Wed, 06-25-2008 - 1:43pm
please share why you voted like you did.
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Registered: 11-20-2007
Thu, 06-26-2008 - 1:52pm
I choose

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Thu, 06-26-2008 - 5:18pm

Been there, done that.

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Registered: 10-10-2007
Thu, 06-26-2008 - 6:45pm

I also aware that I teach my children by example.

April

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Thu, 06-26-2008 - 7:26pm

while i'm in NO hurry to get married.. ... IF (and that's a big IF since i'm not even seeing someone currently)... IF i got serious i would not want to just live together.... if we are that close, it's marriage for me... the full commitment.


But i prefer to date in seperate houses for a LOOOOOONG time before making that commitment.


Loonybunny

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Thu, 06-26-2008 - 9:40pm
I would not likely live w/ someone since I dont want my child to get attached w/o my being very commited. THEN AGAIN ... the last post i answered said I didnt NEED the piece of paper ... Hmmm. lol

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Thu, 06-26-2008 - 10:24pm
That's funny because I was just thinking about that - the contrast between the two posts and the responses. I responded to this one (havent gotten to the other)as being fine with living together fully committed of course since that is what I am doing and we are fine by it. We may or may not make it official on paper but we are completely happy and devoted without it and DS comes first whether we stay as we are or make a wedding out of it. I dont believe it is harder to get divorced - we have people here that never married with kids involved and it hasnt sounded easy for them to figure out coparenting post breakup or property division etc...I really believe breakups that are from live in situations where things are truly commited are a b**ch to break up in many ways that mimick divorce if not all. As same sex marriages and partnerships become legal, all partnerships outside marriage will be given the same added recognition wont they? Then it will seem more and more like a piece of paper from where I stand. We arent holding back a lifetime of devotion over here for anything....this is love to me and I am thrilled to let my kid see it in all of its facets. I want him to know what it looks and sounds like so he can find it for himself and I dont need a piece of paper to show him!
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Fri, 06-27-2008 - 12:08pm
How old are your kids if dont mind me asking?


Edited 6/27/2008 12:10 pm ET by carrie2009
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Fri, 06-27-2008 - 12:33pm
My DD is 13 and my DS is 8.

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Fri, 06-27-2008 - 1:29pm

To the original poster of the poll...


Introduce yourself! It's odd that you popped in here and posted a poll like this. Were you looking for some justification for your own living with your BF (I'm assuming, by your screenname choice) and reason to not get married??


Personally, I find it nice that most of us would vote to marry again. And would do it ONLY if there were no red flags and things were not done blindly or ignorantly as the past marriages might've been.

~shrimpy


It's never too late to live happily ever after, and always be grateful for those who make our souls blossom.

~shrimpy

"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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