Parenting, discipline and the new man

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Registered: 09-29-2007
Parenting, discipline and the new man
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Sun, 09-30-2007 - 11:40am

Hey all, I'm learning quite a bit in a short time. Wish I had come here earlier.

My question is, what can a boyfriend/man learn about a woman from her parenting skills and habits?

Is this a good way to judge the type of woman/friend/lover she will be?

Thanks, can't wait to hear what you have to say.

Have a great Sunday!!

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Registered: 10-07-2005
Sun, 09-30-2007 - 11:55am
I think the biggest thing you can learn from watching ANY parent is how much patience they have.

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Sun, 09-30-2007 - 4:02pm

I am not sure if there is a correlation between a good parent and a good partner. I know that if the person is NOT a good parent (e.g. patient, kind, forgiving, firm, etc.) then the person will not be a good partner for me.

However I don't think if the person is a good parent that s/he is not necessarily a good partner. I know that we give our children wider latitude and grace than our partners. I think the expectations are higher with our partners.

Mark

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Tue, 10-02-2007 - 10:47am
Patience is important. As well as the fact that they are into their kids and can prioritize their lives so that everyone benefits.
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Registered: 08-08-2007
Tue, 10-02-2007 - 8:02pm

To a degree, you can probably get a sense of her by how she acts with her kids. A very relaxed mom is probably a relaxed partner, a forgiving mom a forgiving partner. Same goes with a ranting, screaming controling mom, probably somewhat controlling in her relationships.


But I agree with Mark, many people put higher standards on relationships, and have less toerance than with their kids. Or vice versa... some moms might be very harsh on the kids but a doormat to their guy. I guess it's hard to say. Sorry, I think I just muddied the waters more than cleared them...


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