Parking with the engineer ....

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Parking with the engineer ....
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Sun, 03-30-2008 - 11:46am

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Sun, 03-30-2008 - 4:43pm

I really don't like the "still supporting ex family" idea.


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Sun, 03-30-2008 - 8:52pm

Yeah - its a bit of a flag for me. Thats a lot of drama. But on the other hand, its not like MY life/divorce situation is drama free! lol

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Sun, 03-30-2008 - 9:01pm

Dont worry, the shapers come in

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Sun, 03-30-2008 - 9:08pm

"Here now, ready now" ... yeah, that IS a better gamble, BUT, lol, Im not sure *I* am there either. I kind of like that he is busy & interested, but not smothering.

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Sun, 03-30-2008 - 9:08pm

I think as you find more out about his situation and story that it will make more sense. Perhaps she is bitter about the divorce and her world is turned upside down. And perhaps she is really into the homeschool thing plus a lot of activities for the kids and she doesn't want to give that up. If she has been out of work for a long time it is not easy for her to just find a job - she might have to go back to school - who knows? And a teenage girl is really in need of everything staying stable for her.

I would hope that in time he can be on better terms with his daughter - I wonder what the mom has told the kids?

It seems that his situation really blew up and there is still "shrapnel everywhere" - this reminds me - I saw the profile of a guy who wrote yesterday, and he says he is "successfully divorced" and that really put me off so I deleted him!! That would be the extreme opposite I would guess!! LOL!!

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Sun, 03-30-2008 - 9:10pm

I will be curious to hear the story - I am sure there is more to it.

I was talking to the CFO and found myself siding with his wife and not liking him for his story - and not liking his control freak ways. I thought, she is much better off without him and I don't want him!! LOL!!

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Sun, 03-30-2008 - 9:12pm

Me neither. Just posted that above to you & mostly in repsonse to West. Luckily right now i dont care - but its not something I would accept long term. Yeah, 4 yrs is a long time.


I think he has tried numerous times to make ammends with her. He told me he asks her periodically every month or so to dinner, or to chat, & she refuses. He has offered to go to family counseling, she refuses. He SEEMS from what he says to me, that he really does try. He told me "I just keep showing her hte door is open. hoping she walks thru it".

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Sun, 03-30-2008 - 9:14pm
Thats too funny about siding with the wife! lol

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Sun, 03-30-2008 - 9:21pm

"Hopefully when she sees he is forgiving me, she will follow suit".


After 4 years??? Give me a break- he's not telling you something!


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Sun, 03-30-2008 - 9:34pm

I guess I should have said "exw"!!! Otherwise that doesn't sound too good.

I thought he was very pushy - saying what he wanted to do (my 5 hour ride with me) even when I said that is NOT what I wanted to do (I don't know him! and that just isn't a good meeting/first date type of idea - it is a hard ride and you tend to look bad!). And then he said they moved a lot for his job - and then said she is a great person but not a great wife. And I thought - wow - what a thing to say when she raised 2 little boys close in age and moved all over the place for him - that must have been hard! And then I just thought he is such a pushy selfish idiot - we can't even make a date that is agreeable to me - he insisted on lunch because all of his nights are busy. So I decided I didn't like him.

LOL!!!!!