Pathetic ... but very telling ....

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Pathetic ... but very telling ....
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Sat, 10-06-2007 - 3:33pm
X's siblings have been in & out all day (in town b/c of FIL's passing). His one sister i LOVE, Aves godmother, who is the only normal one of the 5 sibs, is heartbroken over how X is being. She has tried numerous times to talk to him over the years.

So Ave is suddenly - maybe b/c of the therapy yesterday - maybe b/c of his family being here - she is being very verbal about things. She asked her aunt "Hows my Daddy, your little brother being? Still bad?" -- then she took a soccer ball & slammed it on the ground & said to her aunt & uncle "Thats my Dads head b/c he's a bad bad boy". I said "we dont do that to anyone Averey".

She then said how her Dad get SO mad, with a "puss face" that he "gets steam out of his ears". & she came outside later & handed this http://share.shutterfly.com/action/welcome?sid=8AbN27Ny3YslMwI&emid=sharshar&linkid=link4

Photobucket

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Sat, 10-06-2007 - 5:00pm

That is so sad! But I am glad to hear she is verbalizing her feelings. And her picture - it just makes your heart go out to her. Glad to hear you have at least 1 ally in that bunch with the SIL you like.

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Registered: 06-04-2004
Sun, 10-07-2007 - 7:17pm

OMG R, that is sad! Poor Ave, to have to deal with all that. It's a big deal to face that as an adult (like YOU did/do), but to be a little child and have to face that, when she won't understand it... that's scary.


I wonder though- if he sees that drawing, if it would even click with him or not. I WISH there was some guarantee that something like that could just snap the sense into him! And have him realize how big and scary he must be to a child who is MUCH smaller and more tender than he is. It would be neat if he could just see the truth of how he comes across- like how Sullivan in Monsters Inc., saw how scary he was when he saw the reaction he got out of Boo. To just see things from a child's eyes... he SOOO needs to do that.


I think Ave's counselor should see that for sure.


Hugs all the time,


~shrimpy

~shrimpy

"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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