Perfect example of my X's immaturity ...

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Perfect example of my X's immaturity ...
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Tue, 09-18-2007 - 10:33pm

Since we were talking about the issues in the thread yesterday ... I emialed today after picking dd up from his house this morning.

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Wed, 09-19-2007 - 9:04am
she is only 18..which bothers the heck out of me, and Eve asks about her all the time..so she is good with the kids I guess (since Eve asks...) but
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Wed, 09-19-2007 - 9:39am

Hugss.. This must be tough for you. I am just worried how much all this is effecting your kid. In my opinion it is not good to let her go to his place any more untill he has a better sleeping arrangement. He himself has said that the bed is small.. But he may delay getting a bigger place just to trouble you. Can you keep her all days with you and ask for more child support? And he can visit her some evenings or saturday or sunday just the day time?

Also he seems to be mean about you dating. Why not just tell him that you are dating ( so he gets used to that idea). I would recommend not sending this kid to that kind of a dad to spend nights with.

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Registered: 09-11-2007
Wed, 09-19-2007 - 11:03am

Here is my initial reaction to his response...


WTF??????

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Registered: 08-16-2005
Wed, 09-19-2007 - 1:21pm

OMG!!! Immaturity is an understatement! I think you handled the situation in your e-mail perfectly!! You were not accusatory, derogatory or down right mean. You kept it all about your daughter and HER feelings! I'm very proud of you, by the way, for dealing with a man like this, but remaining respectful and mature yourself! I can't believe he would say that he hopes you are not dating because it wouldn't GO OVER WELL WITH HIM!!!! Like he has a right to dictate to you how you live your life right now!! Like you are supposed to care what he thinks and do as he says. BTDT, right? It's unfortunate that he is unwilling to figure out another way for your daughter to spend time with him, as she deserves. LIKE YOUR COT!!!! She doesn't live there, she just visits, so even if it's tight...who cares?? I'm sure she doesn't! I'm so sorry he is pulling s**t like this. It must be so confusing and hurtful to your daughter. Ugh...I'm mad for you!!!!!


Karie

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Wed, 09-19-2007 - 1:31pm
So sorry to hear that he's such an immature jerk! Sounds so much like my oldest daughters father! I get the same sort of stuff and worse. LOL! They will NEVER grow up! They will always think they have some hold on you.
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Registered: 03-15-2004
Wed, 09-19-2007 - 1:33pm

Oh, you must not "know" my X from here, lol. I wish i could arrange something like you suggessted. Did you say CHILD SUPPORT? Please. He pays occassionally, when he feels like it.

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Wed, 09-19-2007 - 1:34pm

That was my reaction to ... he NEVER "gets it".

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Wed, 09-19-2007 - 1:38pm

I honestly dont know HOW i do it, lol.

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Wed, 09-19-2007 - 1:45pm

You cannot control or change your ex but you can help your daughter by teaching her tools to cope and to sooth herself in such situations of stress and strife.

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Wed, 09-19-2007 - 1:54pm

Yes Mark - the victim thing ... or the rescuer thing - i dont want her to feel EITHER.


Mostly we talk about "Daddy making bad choices" - or "Sometimes Daddy doesnt act right b/c his brain doesnt always work right".

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