Perfect example of my X's immaturity ...
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Perfect example of my X's immaturity ...
| Tue, 09-18-2007 - 10:33pm |
Since we were talking about the issues in the thread yesterday ... I emialed today after picking dd up from his house this morning.


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Thanks R! I *am* hot!
lol But that's only because I live in TX where it's still hot outside! ;-) That photo was from last spring (if I remember right)- and I was 10 lbs lighter then. Ugh on that- but I will whittle it back off again eventually.
~shrimpy
"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.
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Rebecca,
What was your ex like before you married him?
Far from perfect, but not like this. He worked - although not exactly always full time (that should have been my 1st clue). He drank weekends or in social situations, but i figured he would "grow out of it" - STUPID of me. He wasnt competely assanine. He had his good qualities. In fact, surpsingly, he was an incredible father those 1st few years. Even as a newborn, he took her everywhere.
Oh Rebecca, oh dear, I have read through this thread and do know you have your hands full with him. I give you a lot of credit to hang onto the threads of promoting their relationship. I think you have done everything you can so far and the best you can so far given all of your circumstances. I think it will all be a process and you will figure out the best path as you go. I must say, his last correspondence would make me want to end all contact and only allow him to see her as he puts forth the effort. Meaning I would not be calling or doing any driving except to pick her up.
I do understand the sleeping thing because I also slept with Nicholas and breastfed him for a while. I think in time this will all settle in and take care of itself.
I loved your last note that if he doesn't want her on Thursday then you will make other plans. I think you are going to have to shoulder most of the parenting as time wears on. He will probably do less and less. I hate to say it, but I would be tempted to accept and encourage less and less because of my own fears for what he does. But you will know what is best for you.
Hang in there!
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