Phase II, relationship progresses

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Phase II, relationship progresses
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Thu, 03-24-2005 - 12:33pm

My BF and I have moved on to Phase II in our relationship. We're starting to see each other's flaws and we're more closely attracted to one another. The intimacy level has deepened and we're moving into the comfort zone.

I hoped to be in a relationship like this, but thought it was a long shot. This is wonderful and we're deeply in love with each other. He says he wants a future with me and he means it. We're partners and it's a mutual admiration thing.

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Thu, 03-24-2005 - 1:47pm

I am SO HAPPY FOR YOU!!!!


I remember when J and I moved into that more intimate, deeper stage at nearly the same time. And I remember looking at him at one point and going "Wow, things feel so much ... different? What's happened?" Because there didn't seem to be a reason. We were just out to lunch and became aware of this deeper quality to "us". It was wonderful.

Becky

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Thu, 03-24-2005 - 2:32pm

Tricia,

I am SO HAPPY for you!! This is like WOW - what a story!! Keep on goin' girl!!

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Thu, 03-24-2005 - 2:40pm

Yeah, it's good. There aren't any insecurities in this relationship. We're a couple and that's it. It's settled. So, it is possible. Neither one of expected to be in such a great relationship. We both hoped for one, but didn't really think it was possible. We're just really compatible.

I would say hold out for that level of compatibility. There is someone, close to where you live, who is just that compatible with you. Then, everything is easy when you meet. You'll be together from the very start.

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Thu, 03-24-2005 - 2:45pm
This past weekend was like that. Something happened and things got more familiar and deeper. We are partners, not boyfriend and girlfriend or two people who are dating.
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Sat, 03-26-2005 - 12:53pm
Funny you mention "boyfriend and girlfriend". I am just divorced after a 9.5 year marriage and am "dating" a great guy. We are exclusive also, but I just HATE the boyfriend girlfriend at this "age" or stage in my life. We just sort of co-exist, knowing what we "have" and "are" but last weekend we were at his brother's for dinner, and my 8yo said something like, "Mike is my mom's boyfriend" and it seemed all weird.
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Mon, 03-28-2005 - 2:23pm
I totally get the "boyfriend and girlfriend" squeamies. It's like we're in 7th grade again to put it that way! LOL! And I think "significant other" just sounds sterile.
So what do you call them? SO? Other half? Partner? Date?
I have a terrible habit of referring to partner's as belonging to the person they are dating, like,"I asked Sarah's Paul if he had fun on his trip"
Isn't that weird? I just don't know how else to refer to them. It just seems easier to put them into some kind of context. I know-I'm strange! LOL!
All the Best,
Jean
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Mon, 03-28-2005 - 8:25pm
I don't call him anything... it's too weird for me. Partner seems like it's a "gay" term, and not that I have a problem with that scene, but it just is what the word means to me... I guess he will just be "Mike", and anyone who knows me or him well enough, will know what the relationship is.