Pictures speak a thousand words

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Pictures speak a thousand words
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Wed, 04-25-2007 - 9:06pm

Okay - so I am on the fitness site and going through a few emails. Several live too far away. One is too old. Another has no pic but a pretty interesting profile. He is the same age, athletic, lives close by - all good things. He sent a message yesterday saying he liked my profile what did I think of his. So I write back - it looks pretty interesting - do you have a pic.

Well, the dear soul put up the pix today. And he is very attractive! He even writes a long note. But I get confused - and I am suffering a head cold. So I shut down the computer to be with DS.

Upon reflection, he gets the delete key for sure.

Picture this if you will:
- a car with all the toys outside - surfboard, skateboards, mountain bike - stuff like that
- a box with a pet ferret
- a pic of him with his 5 year old daughter - she is a cutie
- some other pix of him - very hot

BUT BUT BUT - there is always a but - he writes that he has been divorced for a year and just moved here a month ago from the west coast - his daughter lives in a midwestern state. He has what I consider a nomadic job something on the caliber of a waiter. He loves the water here bla bla bla.

I just can't get over the fact that he would have a daugher in another state and be here with a job like that. I mean, I could understand a real career type of thing. There are other red flags in the profile that mean more with the pix - like he hates jealousy and confinement and is into extreme sports.

On the other hand, there is a guy from match who would be perfect if he didn't live so so far away - we have been emailing each other - not as matches - but more as friends to compare match stories. He says his best job in life has been being a good dad to his kids and that his hard work shows and he is so proud of them and gets along wtih their mom. He owns his own company, is so attractive, into fitness and admires mothers. So, I am holding out for one of those that lives here.

Funny how pictures can speak a thousand words!!

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Registered: 02-08-2006
Wed, 04-25-2007 - 10:13pm

I just have to say, if "waiters" where you live can afford surfboards, skateboards, bikes, cars that aren't heaps and all the toys, AND presumably pay child support, maybe I should give up my "career" type job here! That alone would be a huge red flag for me.

I am so hoping you find your match, even if "the one" isn't what you're looking for- and that he's everything you know you want- and MORE, because I am now a believer that the right match for us is so much more than what we think we want.

I do love hearing your stories, keep 'em coming!

Moody, rethinking her tips


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Wed, 04-25-2007 - 11:10pm
I am glad to amuse you, Moody. I am not sure if it is my area or the whole OLD thing but I am losing patience with it. There are so few I find attractive and out of those none of them have had anything near a stable living situation. I surely don't require wealth or anything special - just settled here and being a good dad if applicable. Not recently divorced with 2 exs and a messy custody battle, or living like a hobo while your kid is so young and far away. I could go on and on because there are many more I have read or talked to who have contacted me.
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Wed, 04-25-2007 - 11:21pm

I don't think it's your area, or OLD. I think it's the world. Finding a compatible match takes time and patience. BUT, as a great lady once told me (nudge, nudge), it only takes ONE.

I have faith that you and everyone here will find that one, and we'll have to rename the board something like "Happily Partnered Mothers" or something, because you know you'll never be rid of me!

muahahahahaha

Moody, feeling a little more evil now


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Thu, 04-26-2007 - 12:26am

Funny how pictures can speak a thousand words!!
So true!

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Thu, 04-26-2007 - 7:43am

OMG - you saw a pic of a guy with an erection? What are these men thinking?

I am actually on three different sites - and the fitness site is just one of them. Two are very popular with a lot of traffic.

I think that OLD does bring in a lot of people you wouldn't usually meet - but it brings in a lot you wouldn't want to meet!!

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Thu, 04-26-2007 - 10:48am
OMG! That would be SUCH a DELETE for me! I've had a few strange ones' in the past that just really SCARED me with their pics, expectations and the way they live their life. The whole waiter thing at a certain age is totally NO GO for me. HEY, I don't think it's a problem if you are going through school but once you hit 28 (JMO)and that is your career path, I just wouldn't go their. The whole child thing is definitely a GO AWAY. How could you not want to be closer to your child with that sort of record. I mean, my oldest DD is a perfect example of that. He could move here in a heart beat but just too selfish with his little toys (surfboard, bungee jumping, and whatever wackout idea he has at the moment). Those guys are ALL about "me, me, me". NO THANKS. I have a BAD tendency to pick selfish people, so no thank you to that! Way to go! I agree, keep looking. How FAR does your email friend live? I have a Match guy that I met 2 years ago when I was living in Germany and we began emailing. He lives in NC about 3 hours away and we've been best guy and girl friends for those 2 years. We used to do the whole comparing thing, etc etc. and just became great friends in the process. However, he's just always been too old for me, I can't seem to be attracted to him, he has no kids, but he's a fantastic friend and the girls really like him. So who knows! Your email buddy might turn out to be one of your best friends.