A Pleasant Surprise...

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A Pleasant Surprise...
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Thu, 04-06-2006 - 1:37pm

So much has gone on in the days that I've been away from the board! So much reading so little time! Congrats to everyone on their dating successes! (moody, Kait) Amanda, I too think that 4hr is a struggle.. but you never know what will happen.. start a friendship first.. see what happens..:) Good luck to you too!

Ok.. so, my pleasant surprise... this past weekend my gf from Maine came down to have a great 'girls' weekend. We got pedicures, manicures, dined at a great chinese food place, and afterwards decided that if we left the restaurant with such full bellies and went home, we would seriously just crash. So we decided to 'work off' some of that food, and go dancing.. We went to a place that I told her was a place that you really 'wouldn't meet anyone good' but it was safe, the music was good, and the dance floor was huge. So off we went.. Just going to have a great time..

Once in the door, we made our way to our standing spot to scope out the joint..hehe.. I had noticed a very cute guy checking me out!!lol We did the ol' glance and dart game.. and he came over to me and introduced himself! wow.. he had the most beautiful blue eyes I have ever seen. He's about 5'7" built, but not too bulky. just right. A great sense of humor, has older kids, been divorced for 9 yrs (pretty much raised his kids) and was a true gentleman. He asked me to slow dance(which i NEVER do because of the personal space issue with strange men) but to my surprise, I felt comfortable enough to try it. He was a perfect gentlemen. AND he knew the proper way to slow dance.. you know, one hand around the waist, the other in the hand of your partner. It was nice to dance and not feel like you have an octopus to contend with! lol.. So we spent the rest of the night (the three of us) talking dancing, and laughing...At the end of the night, he walked both of us to my car, gave me a gentle good night kiss, and asked for my phone number.. It was very refreshing to actually meet someone 'the old fashioned way'. I have grown weary of online dating recently, so this was a nice break.
He called me the next day, around noon for a bit. Then on Tues, I asked him out for coffee, and he accepted only to call back in an hr to say that he was 'falling asleep' and wouldn't be good company for anyone. Needless to say I was bummed thinking that this was yet another 'line' that men use to break a date..So I chalk it up to experience and move on. (now mind you i had text'ed him a good morning message on mon and tues) So wed came and i didn't text him... no more than 30 min later i get a phone message asking me if I was mad, and that he missed getting my good morning messages that i usually sent..I waited an hr to return his call. When i did, I stated that I thought that he just didn't want to go out, and used it as an excuse.. he explained that he was up early, and while waiting to meet me, started to crash... and didn't want to make a bad impression. Ok, fine.
SO, today, he calls me and says good morning, and asks when do i think we can get together? I said, Well, I've been waiting for you to ask me .:) We are going out this Sat night..;)

So long story....I know.. but i'm so excited.. he seems really nice, and I'm looking forward to getting to know him more..
Funny when you least expect it....you get a pleasant surprise ;)

Lisa

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Thu, 04-06-2006 - 1:52pm
Yeah, when you least expect it! That sounds like a very good start and I can't wait to hear how this plays out. Keep us posted!
Stephanie
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Thu, 04-06-2006 - 1:56pm


Thanks Stephanie.. I will... ;)

I forgot to add that he asked me 'how can he make it up to me' for cancelling our coffee date.. i said.. hmmm flowers.;)

hehe
Let's see if he follows through..lol

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Thu, 04-06-2006 - 2:16pm

Well that story had its twists and turns, didn't it? But I'm glad things are straightened out and you have a date set! I hope you both have a great time on Saturday! Any idea what you'll be doing yet?

~shrimpy

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"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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Thu, 04-06-2006 - 2:56pm
How wonderful! Have fun on Saturday, and keep us posted!

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Thu, 04-06-2006 - 2:58pm

LOL I know didn't it!?!

I'm kinda undecided to take him along to a ex-coworkers 50th b-day party for a couple of hrs then leave and do our own thing, or just meet him later .....What's your opinion??

Lisa

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Thu, 04-06-2006 - 3:20pm

For a first official date, I'd say to hit the party on your own, then meet up with the man later. JMO, since it's not like you're a couple at this point and taking him to the party with you sort of implies that.

~shrimpy

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"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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Thu, 04-06-2006 - 3:24pm

That's what I thought too.. I think I will call him back and see if he wants to meet up at a later time (the party is at 5:30) ....

Good Call. I agree.

thanks!
Lisa

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