Pleasant Surprise Pt 3.....*yawn*

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Pleasant Surprise Pt 3.....*yawn*
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Wed, 04-19-2006 - 1:11pm

Ok.. so for those of you who remember the date that I went on last weekend (the 8th) with a man who I met the "old fashioned way" and what a true gentleman; opened my car door for me, pulled the chair out for me, stood up whenever i left the table.. etc etc...

Never called back after that date. Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm I wonder...................maybe it was because................

HE DIDN"T GET LAID!?!?!

lol... .oh well.....
I just figured I would end this quite boring saga of mine.. I guess it doesn't really matter.. OLD, Old fashioned meeting....the results are going to be the same, and you have just as much chance of meeting a guy in person who is just as much a loser as online dating..;)

any comments?
Would love to hear them! :) lol

Lisa

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Wed, 04-19-2006 - 1:30pm

That bites that he hasn't called back! But about the date... did he TRY to make moves on you and you put a stop to it? If that was the case, and he isn't calling because he didn't "get any"... then I say- GOOD RIDDANCE!

Any man worth your time will not stop calling just because he didn't get sex. Wasn't that your first date anyway?? (or am I confusing you with someone else? which I do alot) What did he expect?!??? Sheesh!

Cyber-chocolate coming your way,

~shrimpy

~shrimpy

"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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Wed, 04-19-2006 - 1:41pm

Hey Shrimpy..

Yea, it was our first date, and yes i did put the brakes on and told him SEVERAL times that I wasn't sleeping with him. (NO matter HOW cute and built he was..lol)

PLEASE! It was our first date, and hell with that if I was going to sleep with a complete stranger..

Good Riddance is right.. No tears here...:)

ONward and UPward

Lisa

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Wed, 04-19-2006 - 1:53pm
that sucks...sounds like the "true gentleman" deal was all an act to get into your pants (((HUGS))) you can do better!






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Wed, 04-19-2006 - 2:05pm

lmao! OH totally was an act....oh well. THanks for the hugs!! :)

Lisa

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Wed, 04-19-2006 - 3:54pm

Well, Lisa, now you know. At least he's not like guys are when they're teenagers, and wait until you *finally* have sex, then disappear.

Better to know now and be done with him, I think.

NEXT, as Judy (I think, sorry if I'm wrong) would say!


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Wed, 04-19-2006 - 4:19pm
Ok... Question: Did he insinuate or make any comment toward sleeping together or did you just tell him that several times because he was being a gentleman and your guard was up? Just curious...
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Wed, 04-19-2006 - 4:20pm

Whenever a man comes on strong with wanting sex right away - he makes it very clear what he is looking for - and that is sex - no relationship - just a release of his physical needs.

Glad to hear you didn't fall for this one. This is no loss to you. And you did good not to fall for his tricks.

It is disappointing for sure - but I guess just goes to show that you can meet duds in real life as well as online.

NEXT!!

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Wed, 04-19-2006 - 4:38pm

Ummmm....
I guess the hint would be that while we were making out, he was making moves on me, that would lead me to believe that he was going in that direction...and when i said I wasn't going to sleep with him, he kept trying..;)

what man wouldn't.. however, that's why i feel he didn't call back...i don't think he would have called back either way.. but at least he didn't get his WAY! lol

Lisa

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Wed, 04-19-2006 - 5:23pm

what man wouldn't.. however, that's why i feel he didn't call back...i don't think he would have called back either way.. but at least he didn't get his WAY! lol

SO TRUE!!

You're right: ONward and UPward!!

And yep, that is Judy's "NEXT!" LOL

hugs to you and phooey on him! Just tell yourself he had an STD! :P

--snow

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Wed, 04-19-2006 - 5:27pm

You made a good call not to let him proceed - this tells you he is very selfish and only considers his needs and not yours or how you feel. When a guy really likes a girl he is totally scared to go too fast.

The thing is, that guys have 2 hearts. One is in their head and it moves very slowly. The other is between their legs and it moves very fast sexually and has no conscience. You have to know the difference.

I have been watching my babysitter and her bf is content to wait until they are married. He loves her so much that he would be mortified to frighten her or hurt her or do anything to displease her in any way. They are young and I realize not everyone has this moral. But the point is clear. When the guy is that into you he respects you and does not make a move like this on the first date.

At the very least he should have stopped and apologized for getting swept away in the moment - not kept on trying to seduce you!!!!!!!!!!

It took me a long time to figure this out!!

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