Pleasant Surprise Pt 3.....*yawn*

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-16-2006
Pleasant Surprise Pt 3.....*yawn*
16
Wed, 04-19-2006 - 1:11pm

Ok.. so for those of you who remember the date that I went on last weekend (the 8th) with a man who I met the "old fashioned way" and what a true gentleman; opened my car door for me, pulled the chair out for me, stood up whenever i left the table.. etc etc...

Never called back after that date. Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm I wonder...................maybe it was because................

HE DIDN"T GET LAID!?!?!

lol... .oh well.....
I just figured I would end this quite boring saga of mine.. I guess it doesn't really matter.. OLD, Old fashioned meeting....the results are going to be the same, and you have just as much chance of meeting a guy in person who is just as much a loser as online dating..;)

any comments?
Would love to hear them! :) lol

Lisa

boston.png Boston Girl image by EmmaLee192

Pages

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-16-2006
Wed, 04-19-2006 - 6:23pm

This is a VERY insightful post !!! Totally hits home.. and I will remember this one..It is true..I look back on past bf and lovers, and see that what you say is true...

MOST excellent point!!!

Lisa

boston.png Boston Girl image by EmmaLee192

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-07-2005
Thu, 04-20-2006 - 12:53am

Ugh!


Photobucket
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-25-2004
Thu, 04-20-2006 - 6:20am

The other thing I forgot to mention is that they don't "switch" between hearts - once they only see you as a sexual release they seem unable to really love you with their head.

No one can predict what a guy will fancy and consider as the one - but there is at least one guy out there who will consider you the one - and hopefully this is mutual - but this is what you have to find and not settle for someone who is just stringing you along.

signature
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-08-2006
Thu, 04-20-2006 - 7:30am

<>

Excellent advice, not just for Lisa, but for all of us! As I'm trying to decide who to date, and when, I'll be sure to always keep this in mind...


Powered by CGISpy.com
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-16-2006
Thu, 04-20-2006 - 8:33am

It's not just the fact that he didn't call back. Actually I have to agree with Alison. I really don't care that he didn't call back. Although we had a good time, we really didn't 'click' like i thought we would.. I feel good about what I stood for, and for ONCE listened to my gut.

After 2 divorces, I am FINALLY NOT SETTLING!!!!! Even though dating s*cks from time to time, overall I feel good about it since I am free to do whatever I want..and SEE whomever I choose at any given time! :) (yes, it's taken about 20yrs for me to understand this..) I want to have someone in my life, but I'm not willing to compromise for it.

I have an older male friend who I talk alot about this stuff with, and he says, "Lisa, someday some lucky b*stard is going to realize what he has and will never let you go". There are days that I have to make that my mantra because I feel that it will never happen for me.

Onward and Upward..:)

Lisa

boston.png Boston Girl image by EmmaLee192

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-13-2005
Thu, 04-20-2006 - 9:18am

Lisa,

I know personally that dating really stinks. And sometimes I get disheartened or tired of being alone or tired of all the disappointment. But I always try to think and remember that no matter where we are in life - no matter how old - or how many divorces - we can still run into the perfect guy for us.

The thing is that we have to be patient. And we have to do what you just did - not to settle or do something we don't want to do. We have to be ourselves and be firm with what we want - not just let a guy get in our pants to please him and then hope to change things later on.

The advice of your older friend is right - we WILL find a guy who appreciates us for all of our strengths and positive points and who will not want to let us go. We just have to wait for that person and be our best for when he comes along.

Keep us posted!! And I will do the same.

signature

Pages