PLEASE HELP!!!! ASAP!!!!

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Registered: 06-29-2005
PLEASE HELP!!!! ASAP!!!!
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Fri, 08-04-2006 - 8:10am

Okay, let me start this off by saying I love Mike with all of my heart, and I want to be with him for the rest of my life. That being said, I have a problem. Mike and I moved in together in the beginning of June this year, so we’ve been living together for 2 months now. Mike has a roommate at his apartment, and their lease is not up until December or January. Mike has tried repeatedly to find Rob (his roommate) a roommate, but Rob either doesn’t talk to the potential roommate or finds something that he doesn’t like about them. Here’s the problem. Mike is still paying half of rent, electric and cable there. So, Rob has a full apartment to himself with only half the bills, so basically there’s no reason (on Rob’s end) to find another roommate. I have told Mike at least 3 times to set a time frame for Rob. Tell him you have until Sept 1 (or whatever date) to find a roommate because after that period I’m not paying half anymore. I understand it was Mike who walked out of the deal, but like I said, Mike is still paying half of EVERYTHING over there, and Rob has already had 2 months to find another roommate, but has done nothing!

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Registered: 04-17-2003
Fri, 08-04-2006 - 11:00am

I am glad to see I am not the only one that starts heading for the worst case scenerio and looking way ahead in the future!! OK, breathe in, breathe out. ;-)

If Mike's name is on the lease, and his roommate doesn't pay rent, then it will go against his credit. December is only 4 months away. (YIKES!) Even though his roommate appears to have done nothing to find another roommate, Mike does have a commitment to honor.

Would it put a big dent in your budget if you had to pay the phone and cable bill again? Do you have a landline and could you get by with just a cell phone? As far as a ring goes, I would just make due with a simple gold band. He can always buy something bigger and nicer down the road. If that is what is holding you up on getting married I would really think about that option. Rings don't make a marriage. You two do!!

I know you are concerned about being too old and health complications for another child. But, right now deal with the present. Deal with what you know, not what might happen. (I have a friend that has to continually beat that into my brain!!)

Stephanie




Edited 8/4/2006 11:02 am ET by texas_mom1991
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Registered: 06-29-2005
Fri, 08-04-2006 - 11:30am
Stephanie....thanks for your input. The ring is not that importnant to me....it's more important to Mike for some reason (although I do love jewelry) lol I will try to focus on now instead of 2008.....lol thank you!




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