Please help this pathetic tomboy

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Registered: 03-19-2008
Please help this pathetic tomboy
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Sun, 06-01-2008 - 5:11pm

I have wondered why guys dont find me attractive. But I think I now know why. I am decent looking, in great shape and well kept but there is nothing feminine about me at all! Its pathetic. When I go out to run errands I usually throw on some running pants, one of my many race t shirts and a pair of sneakers. To work I wear a pair of nice jeans or cords with a matching polo shirt. To go out on a date I will throw on a blouse and leather jacket but still nothing feminine about me at all. I have one pair of little dot earings and no other jewelry. I even wear a worn out iron man watch. I even have a short boyish hair cut.


I even have a boyish personality. My hobbies are home maintenance, old cars and aviation. I run a lot and I am into martial arts and repair computers on the side. Jeez I am pathetic.


I need help. My kids want to put me on What Not to Wear.


Please help. I want to be attractive, especially to Religious Guy but I also want to be who I am.


Any ideas?


Laurie

anonymous
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Registered: 11-23-2007
Mon, 06-02-2008 - 10:27am

Hello Sue?,


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Registered: 09-11-2007
Mon, 06-02-2008 - 10:38am

I'm in the Tomboy club, too!!!

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Registered: 03-19-2008
Mon, 06-02-2008 - 9:29pm

Marie,

Hi. I was ATC, well still am, and supported a lot of VP squadrons. My ex husband was a career P3 flight engineer. VP6, VP47, VQ1 and 2.

I didnt laugh at all. I run with a belly dancer and I find it fascinating. And the costumes are beautiful!

There are good ways to dress up a pair of jeans. I am just trying to find my style. The celebrities I like are Courteny Cox and Jamie Lee Curtis.

Thanks,

Laurie

anonymous
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Registered: 03-19-2008
Mon, 06-02-2008 - 9:39pm

I like your hair style. Its feminine and short at the same time. Thats what I need.

So I went shopping today with the kids (12 and 17). I have this stick teenage boy figure to make it worse. So I try on a dress and look in the mirror and see a teenaged boy in a dress. I look like a 18 year old transvestite. I dont know if I should laugh or cry.

I found there are good ways to dress up jeans. If I get rid of the tucked in camp style button of shirts and find something sleeveless and a little more form fitting that it looks 100% more feminine.

I am getting there. I'm not a hopeless case.

Thanks for all the suggestions.

Laurie

anonymous
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Registered: 05-13-2005
Mon, 06-02-2008 - 9:45pm

You sound really fun and wholesome.

I think every person needs to have their own personal style. Maybe you can find a younger person to help you shop? Someone who is one of those types to just have a flair for putting things together without spending a lot of money.

Contrast can be good - if you like jeans, why not a camisole with a little lace on the top - it can be by itself or under another one that is more plain on top? Of if you like t-shirts - put one with a sassy skirt or the longer shorts they have now. And yes, dresses are important - they look great with inexpensive summer sandals that are comfortable. And just a touch of simple jewelry that matches is good. I think that a well put together outfit - where everything matches - is superb no matter the fashion - it just has to make you feel good. Hair is important - to blow dry it nice.

I think OldNavy.com has great deals on clothes - and Walmart is great for jewelry and belts and Payless for fun cheap shoes. Those are my online shopping haunts! (Well, Walmart is good while grocery shopping - I always take a tour by the belt shelf on the way to the food section!! )

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Mon, 06-02-2008 - 9:46pm

Oh - you are not a teenage boy in a dress - it is just that THAT dress didn't work!!

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Registered: 10-07-2005
Mon, 06-02-2008 - 11:58pm

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Registered: 07-14-2007
Tue, 06-03-2008 - 10:27am

Oh I am so getting one of those dresses!

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Registered: 05-06-2008
Tue, 06-03-2008 - 11:25am
I would start with a great lacy bra.
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Registered: 03-19-2008
Tue, 06-03-2008 - 1:39pm

Ooooh. I like that idea. And I need new ones too. Mine are really bad. They are all sports bras and most of them are holy, if you know what I mean.

Laurie

anonymous