Please help this pathetic tomboy

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-19-2008
Please help this pathetic tomboy
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Sun, 06-01-2008 - 5:11pm

I have wondered why guys dont find me attractive. But I think I now know why. I am decent looking, in great shape and well kept but there is nothing feminine about me at all! Its pathetic. When I go out to run errands I usually throw on some running pants, one of my many race t shirts and a pair of sneakers. To work I wear a pair of nice jeans or cords with a matching polo shirt. To go out on a date I will throw on a blouse and leather jacket but still nothing feminine about me at all. I have one pair of little dot earings and no other jewelry. I even wear a worn out iron man watch. I even have a short boyish hair cut.


I even have a boyish personality. My hobbies are home maintenance, old cars and aviation. I run a lot and I am into martial arts and repair computers on the side. Jeez I am pathetic.


I need help. My kids want to put me on What Not to Wear.


Please help. I want to be attractive, especially to Religious Guy but I also want to be who I am.


Any ideas?


Laurie

anonymous

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iVillage Member
Registered: 09-11-2007
Tue, 06-03-2008 - 2:04pm

most of them are holy, if you know what I mean

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-01-2006
Tue, 06-03-2008 - 2:07pm

Laurie - I am sure that you will find the right look and comfort point for you.

Rosecolouredspecs
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Registered: 06-21-2007
Wed, 06-04-2008 - 11:20pm

Yeah got it. Don't need to shout. In saying "care more" I meant, care more on your own. Not to catch a guy.


If you only did that for someone else, it wouldn't last once you were comfortable. If you like the way you are, then that's the way you are. Personally, I think there is always room for improvement. You seem to think so too.


I tend to be more confident when I meet my own definition of "looking good". That confidence in itself is attractive. I've known people who could care less what makeup or clothes I was wearing, but my attitude made a difference.


So take the advice offered by all the other posters, and figure out what you actually would like to do on your own terms.

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