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| Sun, 07-09-2006 - 10:27pm |
Okso I've been on here a time or two. Anyways, my ex was a couple of houses down from where I stay on occasion. He was at a party and I was standing in the neighbors yard watching the party's fireworks with my friend, her daughter ( 4 1/2 ) and my daughter ( 4 1/2 ) My friend's house was the other side neighbor and my 3 and 1 yr old were sleeping and her 6 and 7 yeard old were sleeping/ I guess I was egging my ex on and trying to get him to meet me in the road, he doesn't pay child support or visit with his kids. That is the first time I had seen him in 6 weeks. He was with his g/f, the one he cheated on me with. Well, at about 10:30 pm a fight broke out, I sent my daughter inside with the teenager wgho lived in the house that we were at and next thing I know my ex comes jumping out of the pile up. He's covered in mud and I'm standing behind a fence screaming, are you stupid your daughter was out what the hell are you doing, and goingoff.Anyways next thing i know he runs down the street jumps in his suv, and flies to my friends house. He fires 4 shots with a 9mm at my friends house where our kids were , and backs out of my friends driveway. I was scared thinking I had egged him on all night, whats he gonna do to me. He flies back to the party firing 4 -6 shots and then a final shot as he stopped and yelled for his g/f to get in the truck. About 4 calls are made to 911 and we talk to the detective. I give them every bit of info, character wise and drivers licenses number ss # everything,a description tag number, you name it I knew it. Anyways. This was Monday about midnight, on Wednesday I went and filed a restraining order on himfor me and my children to keep him away fromall four of us. What should I do now, his mom is pissed at me for filing against him but I have to do whats in the best interest of my children. I know he is their father but is he willdo this in front of them and fire at the house they were in, was in the wrong? I'm confused. He'snot in jail because it is an on going investugation. I have an injunction hearing on Friday, does anyone know what will happen in that hearing. I need and want to be prepared.
To top it all off, I slept with this guy I was seeing and we still talk on occasion. Last time i spoke with himwas Sunday, anyways, I took two first respopnse pregnancy test and they came up negative, I am 5 days late and then I took a generic ept and it came back with a slight line, barely noticeable, my friend looked and she said she saw a very faintline in the positive side. I have a Mirena IUD and didn't think I could get pregnant. Well looking up my menstrual cycle and all the time i slept with him was on my most fertile day, and I'm about to lose it. I dont know what to do and NO I have not told him, I have only known him for 6 weeks but my friend who I met him through has known himfor about 5 years. Her husband is real good hunting buddies with him.Should I tellhim or wait a couple of days and retest. Also, has anyone in here ever gotten pregnant on an IUD. PLease any help willbe greatly accepted and appreciated. HELP!!!!

WOAH!
Sounds like quite a night!
Since you now know that your ex is willing and able to put his own children's lives in danger, then I think you were absolutely right in filing a restraining order.
I am extremely stressed, but I h ave never missed a period except for when I first started I was 11, and missed one month, it was a february, funny how I know that. But, the protection order will take care of visitation and child support when we go Friday. The injunction hearing will set up child support, which I requested my own amount, and visitation and I got to choose and I said I wanted a court appointed child service worker there when he had visitation, or a police officer. I will not however allow them let him have them on his own or offer supervised with his mother as the supervisor or anyone in his family for that matter. They have been completely against me from the beginning of this break up and his mom is only making it worse calling me and telling me I am a bad mother and that I should live where she says I have too, and so forth. They have had my daughter lie to me and I cant handle that family anymore, I am so stressed and if I'm not pregnant then I need something for it.
I think I want my oldest daughter to go talk to someone as well because they have been using her as a go between messenger and she is confused. My friend says she'll call this other guy and let him know if and when I find out whether I am pregnant or not. I would have an abortion, I cant have 4 kids and live with my parents. I have an IUD and it says that IUD pregnancy's usually and are highly likely to be ectopic. I dont know and I know it only takes once and nothing is 100% but.... I am not an abortion believer, and if I wasn't diabetic I'd go through with it and figure it out, and if he wanted to take the baby. He'smore settled than I am.He's older than me and he has a lot of fun,nothing too major, he doesn't sleep around or anything like that,he's a realnice guy,but I'd hate to drop a bombshell on him like this. I wouldn't want him to feel like he should stand up and do what everyone would say was right because I have 3 other children involved that dont belong to him. Thanks for the insight I could use a lot of that right now.
STAY AWAY FROM HIM!!!! You were right to file a restraining order! The guy sounds crazy and erratic! Who cares if he's the father, he's being crazy and putting ALL of your lives in danger. His actions show that he doesn't care about their safety!
Don't be in any place where he may be, if he violates the r/o, call the police immediately, don't talk to him, don't look at him, don't do anything that will give him a rise! Your main priority is keeping you and your children safe!
As for the possible positive pregnancy test - go to the doctor and get a blood test - that will help you ease your mind and give you an accurate response!
Hugs..
Kait
Thanksfor the input. I have an appointment with the family dr. on Thursday, will let you all know what happens with him. Court is Fri. morning, I am not looking forward to it. I'm a little scared. I know his whole family will be there bad mouthing me and I've heard that since it is an injunction hearing I can ask that it only be the two of us and no one else, so that's what I'm gonna do if they will allow it. My friend cant show up until afternoon and it's at 10 am and my mom will be there. I dont know if they were even able to serve him, the clerks site doesn't show a served date yet, so... I dont think he has been served. He made an appt. witht eh agent on the case and he didn't show up for the polygraph test, so.....
I hope he doesn't show because they can decide right then and there on custody support and whether to make the injunction permanent. I hope so... otherwise I'll really be scared. I tried to get the earliest appt. with the dr. and I told them I had an IUD and I didn't get my period and I wanna get a pregnancy test, plus I need a Hgb A1C, because I ama juvenile diabetic since I was 6..... Last time I was there he prescribed neurontin, for my handsand feet because they keep falling asleep but funny as it sounds they also fell asleep when I was pregnant with my other babies as well. So needlessto say I have not taken the neurntin yet. PLus I read that they take the IUD out and causes a greater risk of miscarriage so maybe that's a good thing, but I am so against abortion and I would fallinto a deep depression if I knew I was pregnant, confirmed and I miscarried,just the thought makes me wanna cry.
I guess I need to stop stressing. This week has been awful. I just wanna curl up in a little ball and cry. Thats why I haven't gone home and have been at my friends since Thursday evening. I think Iam going home tonight but I cant tell mymom because she will flip out, and have a nervous breakdown with me. I'llbe back out here after court on Friday, and am watching my friends kids Saturday for her and this guy I had my little fling with willmore than likely be out here, so thankfully I'll know by then. I need a " chill pill" do they even make them, LOL!!!!!! Talk to you guys later and will vent again, if needed,hopefully not, hopefully my week ends better than it started with court being a success for me, and regardless of the test I'll be fine, I'll make it.
I love what Alison writes and don't have anything else to add, really, just to take it one step at a time and you will make it through the week.
Now is your chance to put your exh in place so he doesn't cause anymore damage. Be strong now. And get that support coming in for your kids.
Good luck and keep us posted, okay? Are you sure you counted the days right for your cycle? Maybe it is just late. I will keep my fingers crossed for you.
Take good care of yourself and your babes!