POF Coffee date update.. decoder needed!

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Registered: 07-28-2008
POF Coffee date update.. decoder needed!
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Mon, 10-27-2008 - 6:24am

Ok, so I went on my POF Coffee date and physically he's a doll baby. He's very geeky with these amazing blue eyes and thick dark hair.. you'd never ever guess he was almost 41. He could easily pass for 28. Anyway, we shall call him Irish cause both of his parents are Irish and you can just look at him and see Irish! haha.


Great conversation, never a dull moment.. but he's not like normal men. He's admitted that he's a total dunce when it comes to women and most of the time women have to smack him over the head with a book before he's like Oh.. you like me? LOL. I'm like oh dear god...! So when it was time to leave there was no hug, or nice meeting you, or lets do this again it was just he got up and said "Ok bye!" lol.


I totally 110% put my foot in my mouth, and I'm not sure if I should bring it up and apologize or just ignore that I ever said it. I said you remind me of my 19 year old boyfriend. First of all, 19 or not why did I compare him to an ex ya know? Then I continued to poke fun of the 19 year old boyfriend and what a weirdo he was! Ugg! What I meant though was that they both have the same look about them.. both very handsome. Shame on me lol.


Ok so here is the email I got from him last night:


Hey I just realized

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 10-27-2008 - 7:43am
Hey chickie!
 
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Registered: 04-30-2008
Mon, 10-27-2008 - 9:21am
I don't know... I just had my first OLD date and the first since I have been single again.... I am not weird or unknowing of what i want. Perhaps you should see him casually and see if the first date was just nerves. He did send you a nice folow up email. Just my 2 cents.
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Registered: 07-28-2008
Mon, 10-27-2008 - 9:37am

Yah I have to respectfully somewhat disagree here. I don't think that chemistry always comes on the first date, but yah sometimes it does, and most of the time I think it does. One of the best relationships I've ever had (and I honestly thought this was the man I was going to marry back in my mid 20s) was someone I was not attracted to, and I couldn't wait for the date to be over. He wasn't even personality wise my type.. he was very soft spoken, but

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Registered: 04-30-2008
Mon, 10-27-2008 - 9:42am

Hey,


For me, great conversation is huge! Without it, everything else is useless to me. I think Irish has potential.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 10-27-2008 - 9:53am
Oh I completely agree, sparks do not need to fly on a first meet/date.
 
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Registered: 07-28-2008
Mon, 10-27-2008 - 9:56am
LOL agreed. And I also agree that a "maybe" date does not mean that I stop and put all my eggs in that basket. However, I will give Irish some more time to see what happens while I enjoy meeting other people. And I'll be honest, I'm enjoying being alone a lot more now too.
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Registered: 11-20-2007
Mon, 10-27-2008 - 11:02am
That's almost what I was going to say: keep dating around and have Irish to go out and do fun stuff with, and if it doesn't work out - no harm no foul, kwim?



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Registered: 10-24-2006
Mon, 10-27-2008 - 11:46am
I don't think I'd discount him completely, if you're interested he sounds like he'd like to see you again for sure. As for his unsure of what he wants, you are right. He'll know when he knows and he's just getting his feet wet again. I certainly wouldn't put anything on hold for him, but I wouldn't completely nix him if he has qualities you like and perhaps the first date could be chalked up to nerves

 

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Registered: 10-30-2004
Mon, 10-27-2008 - 11:50am
I don't know!!
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Registered: 07-15-2008
Mon, 10-27-2008 - 12:00pm

I have to totally agree with you here.

JH

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