POF question

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Registered: 08-23-2006
POF question
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Wed, 07-18-2007 - 10:05pm
Why do so many guys add someone to their favorites, but then never e-mail?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 10-07-2005
In reply to: lizs33
Thu, 07-19-2007 - 12:46am

Liz- I totally know what you mean!


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Registered: 11-03-2003
In reply to: lizs33
Thu, 07-19-2007 - 1:09am

I thought of two possibilities.

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Registered: 05-13-2005
In reply to: lizs33
Thu, 07-19-2007 - 5:39am

I think it is a way of flirting. Plus if I am not mistaken, if you click on your favorites page you can see who is online now. It is a way of sorting I think. If I liked them I might do the same - add them as a favorite. Just to be fun and see if it encourages a note.

I think the thing about POF is that you have to be online at night - that is when they can see who is online near them and if they like your pic they want to chat.

POF success is definitely a thing about being online because of the way POF shows the people close to you who are online or who have checked email - that gets you to the top of the pile so to speak.

Good luck and keep us posted. Are you on match, too?

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-26-2005
In reply to: lizs33
Thu, 07-19-2007 - 11:31am
Everyone on POF knows that the favorites list means nothing(just read the forums).
I am on 2 guys favorites list that I've never had nor will ever have contact with
because they live a million miles away. Don't let your favorites number get too large
though(You have the option to delete off their list)because many a man has posted on the forums that they won't contact a women with too high a number of favorites because they beleive that she's too popular and won't answer their emails.
The T Girl
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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: lizs33
Thu, 07-19-2007 - 12:34pm

I have used Favorites for that reason, i.e. a reminder to send a message when I have more time to write. I also used Favorites as "I'm sorta interested and *think* we're a match but not quite so let me think about it more...." reminder as well.

Nice thing is that after I added this woman as a Favorite, she added me which prompted me to message her. I really did not think she would be interested because of our age differences and what seems to be her passion (enviornmentalism) but I wrote anyway figured she checked out my profile. She responded and now the next step is us actual talking on the phone. We'll see....

Mark

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Registered: 05-13-2005
In reply to: lizs33
Thu, 07-19-2007 - 1:28pm
Wow - this is like gold - the male way of thinking for OLD. We love having a man around the house!!
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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: lizs33
Thu, 07-19-2007 - 1:59pm

I do not pretend that I represent most guys. In fact I read "Self-Made Man: One Woman's Year Disguised as a Man" by Norah Vincent who is a lesbian in order to know what men are about.

I view myself as an anomaly since I am Japanese American geek (father, both brothers and myself have graduate engineering degrees) with a dominant mother, nurturing father - so I'm not the typical macho, agressive, team/spectator sports, always right, vocal type of guy.

With that said, thanks for the welcome *grin*

Mark

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Registered: 06-04-2004
In reply to: lizs33
Thu, 07-19-2007 - 4:05pm

"so I'm not the typical macho, agressive, team/spectator sports, always right, vocal type of guy."

... and it's a good thing that you're not- because this world is already full of those types. Plenty of them!!

~shrimpy

~shrimpy

"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

~<

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-23-2006
In reply to: lizs33
Thu, 07-19-2007 - 8:41pm
No Judy, not on Match right now.
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-23-2006
In reply to: lizs33
Thu, 07-19-2007 - 8:45pm
Thanks Taina, I haven't checked out the forums much, I'll have to take a peek.

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