potty trainning advice please

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potty trainning advice please
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Wed, 09-15-2004 - 2:31pm
my ds is three and 2 months and still not totally potty trained. he'll go pee if i put him on the toliet but wont tell me when he has to go. he wont go poop at all on the toliet. he has gone all day dry. how can i get him to tell me when he has to go? also i have him sit on the toliet when he goes pee figuaring it will be easier to get him to go poop that way but others have told me that i should have him go standing up. any advice would be helpful. i'm tried of all the "why isn't he pottytrained yet" from people but i don't want to push him.

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Wed, 09-15-2004 - 3:25pm
My oldest ds was completely trained by the time he turned 3. It helped that the preschool he went to would take them all to the potty at designated times during the day, and they had to sit on the potty even if they didn't need to go. They were also encouraged to wear real underwear rather than pull-ups, so that they'd feel it right away.

Poop takes longer. In fact, he would hide somewhere when he had to go, and do it in his pants. Yeah, yuck, I know, but at least he knew he had to go. Eventually he grew out of it.

I'd try real underwear if you haven't yet. Also, maybe rewarding him for telling you he has to go and not going in his pants - stickers etc. Try to have a regular schedule of going to the potty if you can.

And I wouldn't push him. Let the people who're asking stupid questions mind their own business. Every kid is different, and boys usually take longer than girls for some reason.

Good luck,

Galina

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Wed, 09-15-2004 - 3:51pm
You know, I don't even remember how old dd was when she was day trained. Yes, I know her baby book is pathetically lacking LOL. I know she still wore pullups at night until about 4 1/2. But I do remember that I tried to train her the first time and she just wasn't ready. She'd go if I put her there but other than that, not reliably trained at all. So, I gave it up--of course I'd take her if she asked but nothing more. And during that time I tried rewards, I tried timing meals, naps, beverages. But when she decided she was ready (which I know for sure was sometime after her 3rd birthday) she was completely trained in literally 2-3 days. But until she decided that was her idea, it was no dice. So, I'd say that people need to mind their own business and not to push too hard. Trust me, he'll be trained eventually and 20 years from now, no one will care whether it was at 18 months or at 4. Hugs.
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Wed, 09-15-2004 - 4:04pm

From the day care provider's point of veiw....


Boys do take longer...so don't worry.

Kim

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Wed, 09-15-2004 - 4:11pm
I think you just have to wait - when they are ready they do it on their own. I did find, though, that bribery can get them a little closer to the "I am ready" - aka M&Ms candy or a toy they really want. At first I started my son sitting but we went to standing to pee within a day or two. Life stopped and we spent all day at home with just his underpants - that helps them know when they have to go - an accident here or there is okay - and I didn't make a big deal. He wanted to do this to get a toy. #2 took much longer for him to want to do that, though.

Good luck.

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Wed, 09-15-2004 - 5:29pm
It took awhile for my son to grasp it, I tried a few times and gave up, trying a few months later. It clicked for him one day when he was just getting into the tub and started peeing and I pointed it out to him that that was what I was expecting of him to control. That day it clicked and he caught on what the sensation was he was waiting for. He was almost 3 and a half at that point. After that, I also would make deals with him, to encourage him to go to the bathroom. He would ask for something, and I would say, "ok, I'll make you a grilled cheese sandwich while you go pee." At first he resisted, but I stood firm that I wasn't going to follow thru until he did. It then became so easy, "ok, I'll get that going/ ready/ finished while you go pee."

Pooping was a little harder, and I did have to resort to a bit of punishment because I knew he was ready to go in the toilet. I put him to bed early one night because he pooped his pants. He was devastated, but I linked it directly to the pooping. He started going in the toilet after that.

I also found that in public I had to, and still do, remind him that if he has to pee there's a bathroom around, just to let me know. He had an accident when we were visiting one time, cause he said he didn't know where the bathroom was. So I will usually point out where it is to him so he knows where to go.

Just know that he will eventually get it.

Alison

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Wed, 09-15-2004 - 6:17pm
My daughter is 12 and I still have to say "The bathroom is right there....DO YOU HAVE TO GO?"...She doesn't have accidents but she can sure be irritating...she always needs to go when we are in the BACK

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Wed, 09-15-2004 - 9:56pm
I'm really surprised at the people around you wanting to know why he isn't potty trained!!! I didn't start until their third birthday. They're ready when they're ready and not a minute before. Drop it for a couple more months until he's interested and ready. My potty training experience was literally showing a movie a their third birthday...I thought I was going to have naked kids in the house having tons of accidents, but my son 'got it' straight away and my daughter is the one who had a few accidents before she got it.

My MIL is a firm believer that if boys can poo sitting down, then they can pee sitting down, too. It makes for a cleaner toilet area if you know what I mean.
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Thu, 09-16-2004 - 7:04am
Take heart. my ds trained at 3.5 years, his sister at 3.75 years....
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Thu, 09-16-2004 - 11:28am

LOL!!!!


Tyler has to go to the bathroom EVERYWHERE we go. Every time. We get somewhere new and I can see him scoping out the bathrooms. He pipes up "I have to go to the bathroom" and I just say "of COURSE you do. We're in public and you've not yet marked your territory!"


Drives me crazy!!!! ;)

Becky

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Thu, 09-16-2004 - 12:13pm
Too funny!

Alison

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