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| Sun, 07-16-2006 - 8:59pm |
Hi, I am one month pregnant. I am not with the child's father. Anyone out there been in this situation and how have men reacted?
| Sun, 07-16-2006 - 8:59pm |
Hi Shari and welcome to our board.
Yes there are many on this board who have been in your situation. There are many single moms here from all over the US and even in other parts of the world.
So, I am hoping they will chime in tomorrow - the board is usually busier during the week.
You ask how do men react? Well, they react differently. The ones who just want to party are not going to be interested. But a genuine nice guy who really likes you for you will see you as a package deal and admire the job you do with your child.
I have personally found that having a child filters out all of the jerks. And I have grown so strong. I love being a mom. My son is so special - he means more to me than anything else. And he teaches me so much. I can't imagine life without him!!
I am glad you found us. I hope you stick around and keep us posted on your pregnancy. We would all love to be a part of it.
Hi Shari,
Welcome to the board.
To be honest, I don't think you should be worried about how men will react to this situation.
Congratulations!! Children are truly a miracle. I mean just think about how they are made and with love. Whether it be just from you or from you and their father, children are love.
Guys all react differently. I say it's more on how you react to the way they react that is the big deal. I may be finding myself in your situation atthe moment. But I already have 3 kids to a jerk off and if I am pregnant which I'm almost 100% sure, than this other guy has a lot on his plate so his reaction will surely be different than the one you are going to receive.
Some guys, believe it or not, love kids, they dont mention it but they want kids, and when faced with this they stand up. On the other hand some guys dont... and if you find yourself in that sticky spot, remind yourself that you'll love this child no matter what and this guy wont change that... so get your custody and child support before the baby is born and that is one less thing that will need to be done after the baby, which will make it harder to do. Not all guys are jerks so... dont be scared to tell him and tellhim as soon as possible because he may think about it and change his mind over the course of 8 months. Good luck and hopefully things will work out great.
Hi, Shari! CONGRATULATIONS on your pregnancy! Being pregnant really is so awesome - it is indescribable to anyone who has never been there, so enjoy and feel special!
When you ask how men react, I am not sure if you mean, the father or other men. In any case, I'll try to answer both, just from my experience.
My little one will be a year old in a few weeks. When she was conceived, her father and I lived together. He swore he was cool with it, but he started not coming home on the weekends and did a variety of other things that caused me to confront him a week before my daughter was born and we ended the relationship.
After months of barely seeing her, he decided that he wants to be father of the year. So, he sees her quite frequently and last weekend she had her first overnight with him - of course, he lives with his girlfriend and her children - the very same girlfriend he cheating on me with while I was pregnant!!
Anyway, I am not trying to make this about me, as this is your thread. I just want to give you background so that you know that I can relate to what you are going through (as far as being a pregnant single mom) and show you how he reacted. In any case, I have to tell you, that no matter what HE does, my love for my daughter is the most immense, amazing thing I have ever experienced in my life and I wouldn't change a thing!
As far as other men, there are lots of single dads out there, and I don't think I have received any judgmental feedback, but as another poster said, having a child helps me to weed through the jerks and my daughter is absolutely number one in my life, so it puts any garbage regarding other peoples' actions in perspective - I'll only accept the best for us!
So, in short, I think every man reacts differently.
If you have any other questions feel free to ask and CONGRATULATIONS again!
Samantha
Hi! Thanks so much for the welcome, but I actually have been here for a while - I changed my user name to take my daughter's name out of it! (paranoia!) It used to be "blessedwithamber!" I must have forgot to let everyone know! I never was a huge poster, but Shari's question seemed like something I actually could help with! :)
Have a great day!
Samantha