Pregnant lady syndrome

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Pregnant lady syndrome
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Wed, 05-16-2007 - 3:47pm

Disclaimer: No offense to any pregnant ladies!! In fact I bet you can relate.

Remember when you were pregnant and EVERYONE had some sort of comment about what you look like, if it is a boy or girl, how you have to be careful, their experiences, and stupid advice? After a while it drove you crazy.

Okay - this is what I feel like telling married people I am dating someone. I am NOT telling everyone. My close friends, who are also dating know. You guys know. And I was mentioning it to my cousin and my hairdresser today, who have both been married a while. Neither one has any idea of all the books now, the posts we have overanalyzed on this board, what it feels like to get a divorce, and what it means when someone is that into you, etc. etc. But both are like - how do you know this is a good guy to date?

Now I realize I am going to keep my big trap shut and not tell anyone else, including my family and just enjoy!

Just thought you all would appreciate that tidbit.

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Registered: 04-08-2003
Wed, 05-16-2007 - 4:30pm
That is too funny! Other then this board and my kids, no one knows I am dating anyone. I have very clearly explained to my girls that M is fun to be with, but that their is absolutely no connection of a relationship at this time. We are just having fun together and that is how I plan to keep it. If anyone asks, I just flat out say NO. Especially my family, who is tired of keeping track with me and the snide comments. LOL. I mean, I totally understand, but I haven't talked to my family about anyone since my breakup with XF. Because in the end, I don't want to hear another "Be careful, or how do you know? or in the end:I told you so" I could tell them that I'm taking it slow, reflecting, going very open minded with it, but in the end, I'll hear all the same. So I just want to savor my time with M right now. I don't know what will happen. I am not planning on having even my kids think this could be something. M respects the fact that I set the rules. Hanging out together as friends is great. All of us enjoying our time together is great. Even though I was very skeptical about everyone meeting last night. But we treated each other as neighbors or school friends. I don't want any of the children on either side to see anything but us talking and enjoying each others company until much later down the line. By then, we will be sure that we want to move that in that direction and until then my personal life, is my personal life that doesn't need to involve my children, my family or my friends.
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Registered: 12-27-2006
Wed, 05-16-2007 - 4:50pm

I'm right there with you both on this one!!! I am getting tired of hearing the warnings from my good-intentioned friends and family -- you shouldn't be doing that online thing it's not safe; and we're just worried about you; oh, what's this one's name, I can't keep up; and Why are you trying so hard to find someone -- to that last one I say I'm just dating for the entertainment value!


I know my parents who've been married to each other for 40 years don't get what it's like to raise kids by yourself, let alone somedays not having a close adult to share the events of your day with; my married friends think it's a big joke and don't even ask me about who I'm seeing anymore but I really hate the warnings... at first I would outline the precautions I take

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Wed, 05-16-2007 - 5:12pm

You are so so right!

My sister and mom went away this past week on a trip together. My mom said make sure you call your dad every day and have him over. My dad was so worried about my sister's husband being alone with her kids to have to work and pick them up from school and get their homework and dinner that he went there a lot to help. He was so busy helping them that he only had one day to come and visit us!!

WTF? Hello? I do that every day!!!!!!!

Too funny.

And NO NO NO - I would never tell any family member I was dating online. OMG. NO! I don't know what I will say.

But for sure - none of them know what it is like to be dating in today's world.

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Registered: 02-08-2006
Thu, 05-17-2007 - 8:29am

Holy crap, can I relate!

I actually am blessed with married friends who like funnyguy, but they ALWAYS had words of widom for me when I was doing OLD. They had no experience, of course, but knew all the answers.

Now my problem- not really a problem, but my vent is the people I work with. I'm very close to several of the supervisors and drivers- I work with them for 12 hours a day, and some of us have become friends. As the only single, youngest female in my part of the office, I'm like everyone's honorary daughter or little sister.

While this isn't all bad, they can be so protective of me... which translates to being super annoying when it comes to anything personal! I have gotten to the "don't volunteer, answer only what questions are asked" point with a lot of them. I know they mean well, but they haven't got a clue.

Moody, who only voices her opinion when explicitly asked... and here


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