Pretty boring update from here ...

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Pretty boring update from here ...
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Tue, 03-20-2007 - 10:02pm

Havent heard a word from pilot. Guess he's off the radar. (ha HA! No pun intended!!!) Ah well, such is life.


I may be glad i didnt treck to Boston last week to meet - shoot, i just forgot his name! lol - anyway, Boston guy. (shoot, I really did draw a blank! lol ... I must be tired!)

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Tue, 03-20-2007 - 11:32pm

Well, forget about the Pilot & Boston Boy...their loss but you already knew that.

I am liking the Lawn Boy. Sounds perfect for right now as long as you're sure he doesn't have hidden feelings for you. And at his age/stage in life I bet he's fine with your situation.

I know exactly what you mean about missing the feeling something...believe me I have been there!

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Wed, 03-21-2007 - 8:37am

I think what you're feeling is incredibly normal. It's very easy to compare- not just easy but impossible not to, when you had a good relationship with healthy feelings. Naturally you want that again, and it's incredibly frustrating to realize that the men who "should" be right for you aren't giving you the same feelings. I think we've all been there.

Meanwhile, I say continue to have fun, I agree about the Pilot, and BostonGuy sounds a lot like my Spec in as far as he would love to see you, but not if it takes too much work on his part. Spec always had a great excuse why I should travel to see him, and I hope BostonGuy shapes up or ships out.

As for LawnBoy, enjoy this. You are an adult, he's an adult, and you know what you want and don't want from him. There's nothing wrong with it, it's probably healthy, since if you're sexually satisfied you won't miss that aspect of Carlos as much, and will be able to continue to talk to him as a friend.

One thing though, studies show that women who are involved in satisfying FWB situations often give off a "taken" vibe, naturally, and without knowing it, since one of their needs are being met. They are also subconsciously less likely to be "on the prowl" if they know sexually they're fulfilled. Not telling you not to do it, at all, just something to be aware of, since dating is tricky business.

You do seem to have it all together, so maybe that's a warning for myself and the rest of us. Be careful how satisfied you are, if what you're looking for is a relationship beyond the bedroom...

Moody, not very satisfied these days


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Wed, 03-21-2007 - 8:58am

Well, i think there is my answer to the post to you about Spec. Sounds like things didnt work out?

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Wed, 03-21-2007 - 9:44pm

I would probably have cautioned you about the parking spot theory - but Moody said it first - and you have a good response - so it is good to see you have given some thought to that. The only other thing I can think of is that all the time spent with LawnBoy means you are not out doing other stuff to meet someone. But that is a minor point I guess.

The bonus of LawnBoy is that you won't feel lonely and you can afford to be more picky.

It sounds to me like Lawn Boy is relatively stable and you both want the same thing and you are happy enough. It is good to hear a boring update - because that means no drama with your exh.

It is such a shame that he is that much older than you. Although he sounds young in many ways.

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Thu, 03-22-2007 - 10:07am
wow, I learned some thing reading this thread,, FWB causing someone to give off taken vibes,, I never thought of it.. I sorta have that, It's a purly sexual relationship, although we talk openly and he is actually the first guy I have ever been totally honest with and I do believe he is with me. He and I started up directly after "it' and I ended, although we were still texting..I needed some one to get my make me feel wanted so I could get the inner strength to say bye to "it' once and for all, which I did do..these days I am not as satisfied by the "FWB" set up, I would like more, he and absolutely will not go there, the thing about the honesty is i know all his tricks,and would never trust him.But I figure, I'm in my prime, and just b/c I don't have a boyfriend doesnt mean I have to deprive myself of sex, but I never thought of putting off that vibe of being taken.It's something to think about,thanks
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Thu, 03-22-2007 - 11:35am

It is very weird how guys just kind of disappear and reappear at random. I'm experiencing some of that as well. I don't remember it being this hard the last time I dated.

At least you have Lawn Boy to keep you satisfied and keep you company.

Priscilla