Prince and Bully Update...

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Prince and Bully Update...
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Wed, 05-21-2008 - 11:32am

SO I have been lurking and trying to keep up with everyone but my heart has just not been up to responding or even sticking my 2 cents into anyones business since i have felt like absolute CRAP for a few weeks and not sure why...well i sort of know and so do the rest of you...the bully needling me as always. It started a few weeks ago when he called to see DD...no problem. Was nice as pie and then I picked up DD at the end of his day with her and there was the OW back yet again and he had alcohol on his breath...fast forward He files a motion against me because i refused to bring DD the following week to see him. So he calls to harass me and continues to then the OW calls and leaves vulgar messages so my Atty advises me to have my number changed and i do. The the atty advises CP that he can only communicate with me through his office. Well CP and the OW harass and threaten my atty and his staff so much they tell him he can only contact them through written communication now. You get where this is all going right???$$$$$$$ out of my pocket. Soooo my atty tells me DD has to go see him or i will be in contempt and we have a mediation set up and i have to go without atty. SO i do...this morning...and the mediator had to end the mediation because CP was sooooo unwilling to bend. He wants DD 5 days a week in the fall, 2 ON a week, me to continue to drive her, all holidays and bdays...i said no we will have to let the atty and the judge handle it. He sat there telling me i was disgusting, i did this, pulled out an police report from 6 years ago when i slapped him across the face for spitting in my face and refusing to leave my apartment (before we lived together and DD was even born) and I was arrested because he said i slapped him...umm i called the police because he wouldnt leave. It was dropped because he never showed up at court...we had actually gotten back together at that point (its humiliating to me that i let him push me to that point...i know when to walk away but he spit in my face...who does that to a woman...worse yet what woman goes back after that?????) Now we have court next tuesday and im sick about it. He says hes pulling out the police report, hes gonna fight for full custody...I know it wont happen but you never know and im in full blown panic mode.


I cant even enjoy that i got a car. The prince helped me..its used but its mine and its awesome. DD loves it and its mine...Its

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Registered: 09-11-2007
Wed, 05-21-2008 - 11:55am

Oh Sweetie, (((HUGS)))

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Registered: 02-15-2008
Wed, 05-21-2008 - 11:56am

Oh Little Star!

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Wed, 05-21-2008 - 11:57am

Oh Little Star I am so sorry that CP is such a huge waste of skin! (((((Hugs to you))))) What is your lawyer saying about the whole "custody" issue? I am sure he is saying that it will NEVER happen.

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Wed, 05-21-2008 - 12:04pm

Well we addressed the driving today and i said i would no longer be doing it with the cost of gas. he was PISSED. I said i will drive her to my office and you can pick her up from there...and he tried pulling his crap..."you would have me put your daughter on the bus??? You disgust me"


The classic was he was 20 minutes late, the mediator was a woman, he sat at the head of the table and she walks in and says good morning, may i ask you to move to the side thats where i sit...he turns and says oh sorry im used to stting at the head of the table. Hes so worhtless really. If the prince has off next week im going to ask if he can go with me. He said in mediation "do you even have a room for her? oh yeah its not your house...when are you gonna get a house...youre disgusting" Right now im renting my aunts 3 bedroom summer house with a huge fenced in yard 3 blocks from the beach but he feels the need to put me down because im renting from a relative. I know its only becuase hes a little man and has nothing but a carrot sized penis to show for but its getting old.I sent my atty an email with all of the points to be addressed and what happened today so im just waiting for him to call back.

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Wed, 05-21-2008 - 12:11pm

I totally agree with Rose and Moon.

I wonder, momoflittlestar - if there is a disconnect between what you can accomplish legally and the mental/emotional hold he has on you and his demands? I feel you should really sit down with the lawyer and iron out a plan and stick to that and get it legally. No more, no less. Work hard now so you don't have to worry again!!

Good luck - be strong!!

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Wed, 05-21-2008 - 12:36pm

My atty just called back and tells me that no worries he really doesnt have a leg to stand on. If hes unwilling to renegotiate the existing order then the judge will most likely throw his motion out again. My point is when is enough enough???? I will no longer be driving her though...and the new 'used' car did piss him off and it made me feel great to see him squirm and turn green for a few minutes...even if it was followed by venom. But im finding his stings are less damaging than before. And do you know who the first person DD asked for when i picked her up yesterday???The prince...i said i know i miss him too. Wait till he gets a gander at the lip...ohhhh so not pretty. SO off to court again....


thanks for all the prayers, positive thoughts and hugs...they are MUCH needed!


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Wed, 05-21-2008 - 4:21pm
I'm pleased at atty says he does not have a leg o stand on. It sounds like such a difficult situation for you {{{hugs}}}.
Why doesn't the ex play child support? Some men!!
Try & relax & enjoy your car- I LOVE PT Cruisers! :o)

 



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Wed, 05-21-2008 - 6:00pm
Oh Sweetie - I am SO sorry for you. I pray SO MUCH that the judge realizes that mediation failed b/c CP was so unwilling to be sane. PLEASE let him show his true colors in court & piss off the judge . Puuulllleeeezzz. Im praying for you.

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Wed, 05-21-2008 - 6:55pm

PLEASE let him show his true colors in court & piss off the judge . Puuulllleeeezzz.


You know I can really see this happening.

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Wed, 05-21-2008 - 9:13pm

I'm sorry, 5 days a week and ALL holidays and birthdays????


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