Prince and Bully Update...

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Registered: 03-11-2004
Prince and Bully Update...
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Wed, 05-21-2008 - 11:32am

SO I have been lurking and trying to keep up with everyone but my heart has just not been up to responding or even sticking my 2 cents into anyones business since i have felt like absolute CRAP for a few weeks and not sure why...well i sort of know and so do the rest of you...the bully needling me as always. It started a few weeks ago when he called to see DD...no problem. Was nice as pie and then I picked up DD at the end of his day with her and there was the OW back yet again and he had alcohol on his breath...fast forward He files a motion against me because i refused to bring DD the following week to see him. So he calls to harass me and continues to then the OW calls and leaves vulgar messages so my Atty advises me to have my number changed and i do. The the atty advises CP that he can only communicate with me through his office. Well CP and the OW harass and threaten my atty and his staff so much they tell him he can only contact them through written communication now. You get where this is all going right???$$$$$$$ out of my pocket. Soooo my atty tells me DD has to go see him or i will be in contempt and we have a mediation set up and i have to go without atty. SO i do...this morning...and the mediator had to end the mediation because CP was sooooo unwilling to bend. He wants DD 5 days a week in the fall, 2 ON a week, me to continue to drive her, all holidays and bdays...i said no we will have to let the atty and the judge handle it. He sat there telling me i was disgusting, i did this, pulled out an police report from 6 years ago when i slapped him across the face for spitting in my face and refusing to leave my apartment (before we lived together and DD was even born) and I was arrested because he said i slapped him...umm i called the police because he wouldnt leave. It was dropped because he never showed up at court...we had actually gotten back together at that point (its humiliating to me that i let him push me to that point...i know when to walk away but he spit in my face...who does that to a woman...worse yet what woman goes back after that?????) Now we have court next tuesday and im sick about it. He says hes pulling out the police report, hes gonna fight for full custody...I know it wont happen but you never know and im in full blown panic mode.


I cant even enjoy that i got a car. The prince helped me..its used but its mine and its awesome. DD loves it and its mine...Its

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Thu, 05-22-2008 - 2:00am

I am sooo sorry for you, mom_little_star......as we all know some men just never grow up.

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Thu, 05-22-2008 - 9:00am

Hes supposed to be paying child support but he doesnt and that court date is in June...unless he catches up then they cancel the enforcement hearing and i have to wait for him to fall behind again...nice huh???? I tried to bring it up during mediation yesterday but the mediator stopped me becuase "thats a different court"


Thanks on the cruiser...i do love it!! DD LOVES LOVES LOVES the sun roof...tooooo cute

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Thu, 05-22-2008 - 9:05am

You know reading everything that you have been going through with TAZ just burns my a$$. I wanted to badly to send you positive thoughts these past few weeks but every time i read your posts i found myself welling up. You give me hope though...and DD told me this morning shes a ballerina and i thought well thats something else CP wont chip in for and it flashed about your DDs talent showcase and looking for him and it just sink in that CP will be the same. The prince came over last night and asked when my next court date is and i said next tuesday and he said fine im going with you....not sure how i feel about that. I want him there but im afraid it will set CP off even more, but maybe thats good if we go in front of the judge...


Again im sorry i just lurked and didnt offer any words of encouragement on your situation but you do inspire me to be a great mom. Thanks for being here!


(((HUGS)))


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Thu, 05-22-2008 - 9:11am

"but maybe thats good if we go in front of the judge..."

Yes - that could be a good idea - as long as you and the prince can remain cool and stick to the topic at hand.

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Thu, 05-22-2008 - 9:11am

Hi Savannah,


My atty did put in my motion that he will be responsible for my legal fees but we did that last time and since the judge dismissed CPs last motion it dismissed mine as well. But atty tells me he will push it this time...we'll see.


The prince is wonderful but i find i push him away when it gets really bad but he sticks like glue and says thats the girl i know (during one of my many melt downs...LOL). Even if he snores like a bull...i swear between the arthritis, the night terrors (still having them over CP), the ulcer, the lip herpes and his snoring i need a serious night cap one of these nights to knock me out for a good 4 hour sleep...LOL

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Thu, 05-22-2008 - 9:18am
Dont apologize! I know we are in your thoughts. & you know what? The Prince IS A PRINCE!

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Thu, 05-22-2008 - 9:20am
Getting atty fees is a JOKE.

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Thu, 05-22-2008 - 9:22am

I would also ensure that your lawyer makes it clear that your ex CANNOT bring up the police report of the face slapping from 6 yrs ago since the charges were DROPPED at the time should you end up in front of a judge- I'm actually surprised that he wasn't told that in the mediation.


The mediator stopped him at that point and it was ended shortly there after. I know its him grasping for anythign to hold onto at this point. As far as the original order for me to drive her it was only supposed to be until this april when he got his license back (DUI and no he still hasnt gotten it back - he still owes the sate about $6000 in fines LOSER) and i agreed to drive her because i wanted her to see her father...not so much anymore. She misses him and asks for him but then i distract her with seeing friends, the dog,

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Thu, 05-22-2008 - 9:24am

I wish it would be a fading memory but unfortunately im stuck dealing with this jacka$$ until DD is old enough to say she wants or doesnt want to see him.


Thanks for the tea bag idea...Ill try it later tonight. I sure the prince will get a kick out of that one...LOL

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Thu, 05-22-2008 - 10:09am

Hey momlittlestar, what a mess he is putting you thru, did he say the bit about the bus and you being disgusting, in front of the mediator?

mom_uk2socal - Mom to DS22, DS19, DD16