The Prince and the Bully...

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The Prince and the Bully...
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Thu, 04-17-2008 - 3:40pm

So an update on my saga...I find its cathartic to post whats going on then go back after a few weeks and see how far ive come or fallen...


On the Prince...hes wonderful really. Very attentive to me and DD. She really has taken a liking to him and i feel guilty about it. Soonee...before you start with your wisdom let me get it all out...LOL Im worried about letting her get to attached to him and for keeping him around for all the wrong reasons. Ok the reasons ready...hes stable, he works, hes committed to us both, he listens, he doesnt ask for anything in return...Yeah so whats the problem right...He is stable hes unchanging in any way at all. Hes meticulous to the point of being annoying. He made dinner for us this week and i thought well ill leave the back door open and he can get started. Well at 7pm i had t go out and give him a push to stop'prepping' and to start cooking. DD was beyond hungry and tired from her day and the tantrums were coming fast and furious. Im a stickler for a schedule and so is DD. She likes her routine. When i pointed that out to him he was ok with it but it was a repeat a few nights later. Hes committed to me to the point of being smothering and coming off as really needy...uggghhhh. he listens and doesnt say a word...not a word back. Hes so uncomfortable if CP is even mentioned (and i know its a no n o to talk about exs but when he asks whats stressing me and i say court or my lawyer or cp cancelled again he clams up and gives me this horribly painful look). He doesnt ask for anything in return...he doesnt take my word for anything either. hes the expert on everything. Even when it comes to my line of work he knows more than me. I called him on it and he said youre right i know i do that but i dont know how to change. Its so damn frustrating to have everything you say one up'd or discounted...It got so bad he put oil in the jeep and shoved the left over bottle between the headlight and the battery. I asked if that was going to cause any problems and he assured me no i know what im doing. Soooo we pack up the car to go to the zoo for the day and it wont go over 25 mph. I asked if it was the oil...noooo got to be the transmission so i got to my mechanic and am without a car for 3 days while the mechanic is ordering a new transmission for me. The mechanic calls and says ummmm who stuck the left over quart of oil over the air intake? you dont need a new transmission but you owe me $88 for a diagnostic work up. Ummmm again trying to one up me???so thats where i am. Bitter??? Im really afraid thats what it boils down to.


On the Bully...ugghhhh where to begin. So far hes 6 weeks behind in CS and i dont have an enforcement hearing until June so we will be severely behind by then. Gee maybe the court will up his rears to $10 a week from the $5 hes already paying. Hes blown off DD for 3 weeks now. Him and the whore broke up again...and there you have why hes blown off DD ...no babysitter. He cant handle a 2 year old on his own. So hes been up my a$$ for 3 days now. Literally calling every day 3,4,5 times a day with stupid questions. he said he had a bad cold this week and thats why he couldnt take DD then said he missed me and needed me. I said excuse me? He said dont you miss me? I said no not at all. I will never be your friend...you are nothing more to me than a man i had a child with. He went on to tell me the GF was to young for him and he didnt know what he was thinking and she truly loved him but he was to old for her. I said please dont fool yourself...she never loved you she was looking for a greencard and if you dont see what her intentions were from the beginning then you are dumber than i ever thought. He also told me she was a nice person and always very good to DD. I said im sure she was nice...ive known whores in my life that were 'nice' doesnt change the fact that they were whores...LOL my mom said ohhh thats beneath you dont say those things...i said no not really mom and it felt damn good to boot. He

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Registered: 10-07-2005
Fri, 04-18-2008 - 7:56pm

Thanks Judy!


I agree that this one is lacking in the important relationship skills area- and really, who wants to have to TEACH that????


Not I!


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Registered: 05-13-2005
Fri, 04-18-2008 - 7:58pm
That is true - he is like the MA disaster - my heart goes out to momlittlestar - it is so frustrating for sure!
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Registered: 09-25-2004
Fri, 04-18-2008 - 10:15pm

Hi little_star,


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