Update on us here in sunny RI!
Can you BELEIVE summer is 1/2 over??
I was starting to wonder where everyone went! I log in and no one posts, how sad!
I'm kind of tired of the non-stop hot weather, but I suppose it's good for those of y'all who live by the beach! I've been to RI a few times in the last week for a family emergency...it is great this time of year.
Good to know all is well! I can't believe the summer is half over, either. Mine has been insane with driving, the family emergency, a few not-well-thought-out kid trips, an EX who is driving me INSANE.
The ex has told me that he is not planning on helping to pay for DS's college tuition. He is going to move to Nashville (he lives in MA now) and become a success in the country music field...he's 55! No consideration about the kids and the fact that he doesn't even see them now and he only lives 2 hours away!
His real bonehead move was that he came to DS's graduation and left before the ceremony was over so he could drive to Nashville. No handshake for the boy, no saying 'congrats', he just bolted.
I'm still with C and he's more of a dad these days than their own dad. HE took the time to come to the graduation party, shake DS's hand and tell him he did a good job...and he's only known the kid a few months. I had mentioned to C that my son was worried about going away to school and next time he was here he went right to my son to talk about the "problem". He doesn't have to do that, DS's FATHER should be doing that. But I do appreciate the fact that C is thinking about MY kids.
I see C almost daily, his kids are away for the summer and it's killing him. I'm not sure what my expectations are at this point, I waver between wanting something permanent and wanting to be free and easy. Making something permanent would require WAY too many logistics as long as we both have kids at home, so I guess the status quo is OK. Families have met, friends have been met, the word 'we' gets used more than 'me', he gets perturbed when I make plans without letting him know first...not that he doesn't want me to do anything, he just wants to be clued in, like I would do if I was talking to a girlfriend. I still want the freedom to come and go and make spur of the moment adventures and it's hard to think about someone else in those moments!
I'm glad all is going well.
I know! The hot weather has been unbelievable. We had so many days in the low 90's & even a 104 in RI! Wowza! Today was finally cool & rainy. My window boxes are SO happy! lol
Add me to the list of non-mom lurkers who love following your story! :) I've posted once or twice for advice (since my BF has kids and I wanted the bio mom's perspective), but I'm always reading.
Thanks for keeping in touch with the board R! I'm glad you and Avery are well. :)
OMG, moving to Nashville to become a country singer at age 55 is such a good plan, don't you think? And he just HAD to go on the day of DS' graduation! Did you get div in MA? Because here, c.s. does continue through college and he can be ordered to pay college tuition too. Have you heard about the Mel Gibson rants to his ex GF? I believe I heard on the radio or read in a tabloid that he had bipolar and was not on medication and it just seemed to make so much sense to me that would be the reason for those rants. Plus if he has an alcohol problem added to it...
It's good that things are going well w/ C--I don't think there's any reason to rush. I think it's good to wait when there are kids involved. Why not enjoy what you have now? Where is your DS going to college? If you are ever going to come to RI for a non-emergency, send me an email. It's only an hour away & maybe we could get Rebecca to go to the beach or something.