Psychoanalyzed by Medic...
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| Fri, 10-24-2008 - 12:21pm |
Ok, I'm not so sure how much I should really put into this whole thing... but he made me bawl my eyes out and I think there might be a bit of truth to it I don't know.
First of all Medic is moving away to be closer to his kids.. 3 hours away. So its finally over for good.
So he says to me today... You put up such a front. You appear to be the most amazing and wonderful happy woman when really on the inside you're just a miserable rotten person. I was like what?? You think I'm miserable and rotten? I said that I do admit to being much more of a sad person since June when Heartbreaker ended things.. and Medic interupted and said "And your ex-husband got remarried". And I just burst out crying. I said its not him, I'm not upset about him moving on. I'm just jealous that someone so rotten and horrible to me who mentally abused me for years can run off and live happily ever after while I just sit here miserable and alone. Medic says.. YOU make yoursel miserable and alone, its YOUR own fault you're miserable and alone.
So anyway, I just started crying and couldn't stop. I'm like am I really a miserable rotten person? When people get close enough to me do they see that or something? I'm just venting here guys lol.. sorry.
I have a POF coffee date on Sunday. I think I'm in desperate need of the breath of fresh air in my life whether its just for the afternoon or leads to something more. I am definatly in a funk and I've got to find my way out.. but I don't think miserable and rotten quite describes me right now lol. But wow.. being torn apart by medic really hurt :(

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He called you a miserable rotten person?
you're just a miserable rotten person.
OMG TJ... he said that? Do yourself a huge favor and be thankful he is leaving for good. That was a horrible thing to say. Anyone can "feel" bad but it does not make us rotton or bad to our core. Holy cow..I would have slugged him (or wanted to). Your ex also called you bad names. Do you feel that somehow you find yourself emeshed with men who put you down? Or have some kind of god complex where they need to get one over on you? Not consciously... but does that seem to transpire after dating a while?
You deserve so much better. Medic is truly low to say that. His moving is a good thing. You don't need that negativity! I hope that you know inside that you are not rotten, you are not miserable. You have moods like anyone else and at the core you are good and beautiful and human.
My friend.. I hope you find someone who see who you are, the good moods and the bad, and love them all equally. Start with yourself... knowing you are worthy and valuable and deserve someone who will be nothing but loving and kind to you.
TJ you are awesome and don't ever let some man make you feel otherwise. Buh-Bye Medic.... don't let the door hit ya where the good lord...oh you know the rest ;o)
TJ - omg - what an a$$!
Wow, that was crappy of him to say.
Just go out and prove him wrong!! Have fun with your coffee date.
**hugs**
You are NOT a miserable rotten person! Jeez "rotten" who uses that to describe anyone!!
*I* think you are a bubbly, lovely, kind, funny, loving person. You are a good Mum & a good employee. Ok maybe you have been a bit unhappy lately- hmm didn't HE cause that??!!! But rotten- wtf.
I'm glad he's leaving you need him out of your life, he's toxic.
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Medic had no right and no position at all to do this to you! He was way out of line. The only thing productive in that line of conversation might have been for him to vent but that was still pointless of him. Where is he? I'll break his leg for you. What a cruel thing to do. The relationship is over. He is moving on. The best thing he could have done is move on and let you move on without hurt or malice.
And dont let anyone psychoanalyze you! Its ok. You can vent at us anytime.
Good luck with the POF guy. Forget medic. Only someone cruel and selfcentered would say those things to you.
Laurie
Michele ((((((((HUGS))))))))
I think the only truth here is that you're unhappy. You are trying to put on a happy face, but he's right- it's just a front. You haven't worked through the pain that your ex put you through, or what heartbreaker did.
You ARE a great person, a ray of sunshine that lights up the room and all of those in it. Go talk to a counselor and work through the pain, so you can return to that sunny state on the INSIDE as well as the face you show the world.
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Miserable and rotten? What a d-bag. Even my ex never said stuff like that.
Of course it hurts when someone you had feelings for calls you something horrible like that. Be sooo glad he is moving away.
As someone once said, there is usually a reason these guys are divorced...
I find that people's judgments are more reflections of who they are more so than the people they are judging. In other words, it's all about them.
With that said, if what they said hurts then I pay attention what nugget of truth that causes me to feel hurt rather than sloughing it off and disregarding the judgment. I see this as an opportunity to work on my stuff. I ask myself, why does it hurt? what makes that true for me? what can I work for ME (not for the person who judges me)?
Mark
We're fools whether we dance or not, so we might as well dance. ~Japanese Proverb
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