Putting away my Leiderhosen ...

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Putting away my Leiderhosen ...
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Sun, 08-17-2008 - 11:18am

Ah well, it was a fun fantasy (for all of us, lol) while it lasted.


Last nite, after a great phone call from Micha during the day, I recv'd an email, under his addy, from his girlfriend of 8 yrs. She informed me that he cheated with his wife, w/ her (& he told me he was divorced 7 yrs, so it makes sense timewise), & would "certainly cheat on you as well". She said she found out he'd been cheating recently w/ his secretery, & now was planning on cheating w/ me as well.


She was very nice, saying she was "no longer his fiance as of this moment", but she wanted to warn me he was a much different person than he appears to be.


It will

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Registered: 02-15-2008
Sun, 08-17-2008 - 11:38am

I'm soooooo sorry Rebecca!

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Registered: 06-04-2004
Sun, 08-17-2008 - 11:53am

Well, crap on all these cheating men!!!!!!!!! Just what do they think they will get away with?!?!? Do they never learn???


It's a good thing you never had the chance to meet up with him then, knowing all of THIS now. Sheesh... all those emails and charm- wasted because he is nothing but a fake. Makes me kinda glad that Hiker is such a "non-charmer"... that he just isn't smooth with his words. I know he won't be out schmoozing other women because he just isn't a schmoozer. He might be "too quiet" at times, but at least I know that when he DOES say the sweet nothings, he means it- because they don't flow like water with him.


Dang it, R.... this bit of news about G-Guy... it just bites!!!! I was at least hoping he could be some fun for you, even if his living away wasn't going to work for a real relationship! It bites... that any man who can talk and charm- ends up with that as a warning flag instead of a plus sign.


HUGS!!!!!!

~shrimpy


It's never too late to live happily ever after, and always be grateful for those who make our souls blossom.

~shrimpy

"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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Registered: 11-22-2006
Sun, 08-17-2008 - 12:03pm
DAMN IT. I guess it was all just too good to be true eh? I am so bummed that people can be such manipulators and liars. And with the distance it only makes it harder to not overinvet trust in someone you have no way of looking dead in the eye.
I am sorry Rebecca - that sucks!
Good for the gf for clueing you in. She must have realized from his emails that he hadnt told you his full status and that you would have been another victim in this. It doesnt sound like she was unaware he was married when she got with him - a part of me thinks she is paying a high price indeed for that now. I really think if you get with someone by virtue of them cheating on someone else ( let alone a wife) it comes back to bite you big time!
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Registered: 06-04-2004
Sun, 08-17-2008 - 12:10pm

I agree- if a man will cheat on someone WITH you, then they will cheat ON you later. The problem is to find this stuff out BEFORE it's too late! I guess that's just another reason to enter a potential relationship very slowly and very carefully... and let ALOT of time go by before making any commitments- because this stuff can't be hidden for too long.


But with German guy being SO far away- I guess he thought he could hide it without getting found out. I wonder what he is going to say (if he even replies again at all)?!!?


It's just disappointing!!! Men like these, ruin the view of mankind in women's eyes!

~shrimpy


It's never too late to live happily ever after, and always be grateful for those who make our souls blossom.

~shrimpy

"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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Registered: 05-06-2008
Sun, 08-17-2008 - 12:28pm

I am sooooo sorry about GG.

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Registered: 06-04-2004
Sun, 08-17-2008 - 12:41pm
Yeah, if he keeps this up- one day someone will strangle him with his own leiderhosen!!!

~shrimpy


It's never too late to live happily ever after, and always be grateful for those who make our souls blossom.

~shrimpy

"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Sun, 08-17-2008 - 3:31pm

Here is her email to me, if you guys are interested , it was after the 1st brief email that said "he cheated on his wife, then on her, & now would on me" ... she followed it up with this email,

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Registered: 09-25-2004
Sun, 08-17-2008 - 4:06pm

That really stinks, I am so sorry Rebecca.


ITA with Shrimpy, my Biker is just like Hiker in that sense he is a non-charmer, words never flow when he sees women..although he is full of romance at home.


I am glad you didnt invest a lot of time

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Registered: 07-28-2008
Sun, 08-17-2008 - 6:16pm
Awe... that whole story brought me back to the time I had a "talk" with the other woman about my husband. Its ALWAYS the cheating man lol. Its just one of those things that we all have, had, and will deal with. Sorry!!
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Registered: 03-15-2004
Mon, 08-18-2008 - 12:30am

I just thank God that I am on the other side anyway ... its got to SUCK being cheated ON.


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