Putting away my Leiderhosen ...

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Putting away my Leiderhosen ...
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Sun, 08-17-2008 - 11:18am

Ah well, it was a fun fantasy (for all of us, lol) while it lasted.


Last nite, after a great phone call from Micha during the day, I recv'd an email, under his addy, from his girlfriend of 8 yrs. She informed me that he cheated with his wife, w/ her (& he told me he was divorced 7 yrs, so it makes sense timewise), & would "certainly cheat on you as well". She said she found out he'd been cheating recently w/ his secretery, & now was planning on cheating w/ me as well.


She was very nice, saying she was "no longer his fiance as of this moment", but she wanted to warn me he was a much different person than he appears to be.


It will

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Registered: 07-28-2008
Mon, 08-18-2008 - 1:51am
I can't wait to hear the update on this one.. when you let him have it! lol.. or are you just going to go the silent treatment route? Any plans?
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Registered: 03-15-2004
Mon, 08-18-2008 - 2:16am

I deleted all his texts & his phone number, so I cant be tempted to call (not that I was tempted to call - but a snotty text would feel GOOD!).

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Mon, 08-18-2008 - 6:35am
Oh jeepers Rebecca, what a disaster!
As you have said there does not seem much point her contacting you unless what she says is true. I mean ok if he was an ex you may try & sabotage things locally but I don't think you'd bother with people os! She sounds quite nice from the email, poor woman. I must admit if I was here I'd be going to Italy, having a ball, an EXPENSIVE ball, THEN dumping him when I got home again!
Oh well, back to the drawing board eh ......
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Tracy

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Registered: 03-19-2008
Mon, 08-18-2008 - 7:33am

Its sad and pathetic that there are people out there that care so little about others that they screw with thier feelings so much. Its almost criminal that he could screw with his wife, his girlfriend, his secretary and your feelings like that. I had suspicions about him. I mean why would he want to find someone to date while in another country just for the little time he is here.


So sorry a cool person like you had to go through this. It sucks.


Laurie

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Registered: 03-19-2008
Mon, 08-18-2008 - 7:38am

I did that as a wife once. I caught my husband cheating while he was deployed. The woman was in his squadron. She emailed him wanting to know why he wasnt around lately. I replied to her with "because his WIFE and KIDs have been keeping him very busy". Needless to say that marriage didnt last long after that.


Laurie

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Registered: 03-19-2008
Mon, 08-18-2008 - 7:44am

I believe her. Its too detailed to be made up.


Laurie

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Registered: 10-30-2004
Mon, 08-18-2008 - 8:50am

Rebecca,


I would report him to Match.com as a violator of the rules.

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Registered: 03-11-2004
Mon, 08-18-2008 - 2:13pm

Well..the flirting was fun...the fantasy was enjoyable...the entire thing is just sh***y, but on the bright side you helped nab another lowlife for someone else. I cant really think of anything else to say...well I could but i dont think IV would let me back on here..LOL. In surprised you didnt find out he was really from some arm-pit-po-dunk town USA somewhere...but i guess cheaters and shaaa-moozers are a universal dime a dozen kind of thing.


Have some vino woman...and keep me posted if he tries to come up for air. id be curious

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Registered: 02-15-2008
Mon, 08-18-2008 - 3:12pm

BTDT and yeah it really does SUCK big time!!!

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Registered: 03-25-2002
Mon, 08-18-2008 - 6:42pm

isn't this the third or so time you've had something similar happen like this... I seem to remember other stories where you heard from the girlfriend that the guy you were about to date was a cheating @$#%^&.


At least you always find out before too long. AND yes, thankfully you are not the on the other side.