Putting away my Leiderhosen ...

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Putting away my Leiderhosen ...
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Sun, 08-17-2008 - 11:18am

Ah well, it was a fun fantasy (for all of us, lol) while it lasted.


Last nite, after a great phone call from Micha during the day, I recv'd an email, under his addy, from his girlfriend of 8 yrs. She informed me that he cheated with his wife, w/ her (& he told me he was divorced 7 yrs, so it makes sense timewise), & would "certainly cheat on you as well". She said she found out he'd been cheating recently w/ his secretery, & now was planning on cheating w/ me as well.


She was very nice, saying she was "no longer his fiance as of this moment", but she wanted to warn me he was a much different person than he appears to be.


It will

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Mon, 08-18-2008 - 9:27pm

2X, this is the 2nd time. Last spring I went out with a guy twice - wasnt really into him but was giving him a 3rd chance ... when yep, hid live in gf called me.


I mean, what more can you do? You ask them if they are married - engaged - involved. They say no. You have their cell #, you can call them - no real major signs b/c a lot of people dont even have a home phone anymore - so thats not a red flag.


Anyway, at least I am realizing, more & more, many people are SO not who they seem to be!

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Registered: 09-01-2006
Mon, 08-18-2008 - 10:03pm
Oh Rebecca....AYE AYE AYE...!!!!!
Rosecolouredspecs
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Registered: 10-07-2005
Tue, 08-19-2008 - 12:00am

Grrr....

Well, I can't say I'm surprised... a guy looking to date a woman in a foreign country that he's working in once a month... was a flag to me...

SUCKS that he tried to prey on you though.

Even without the email from the gf, you would've figured it out quickly, I'm sure.

The boy

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Registered: 04-08-2003
Tue, 08-19-2008 - 2:32am
Not really surprised, because its typical of European men to cheat. As for the girlfriend Fiance, what goes around comes around. Wasn't she the one that cheated with him when he was married? Seven years and not married, no thanks, talk about being strung along. Oh well. Live and learn I guess.
Unfortunately, you got caught in it and that really sucks! I'm sorry!! Big hugs to you and let's just hope you don't make third a charm. Lot's of us have been really lucky not to run into this that often, because their are plenty that try it.
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Registered: 10-30-2004
Tue, 08-19-2008 - 8:11am
I still think she should report him as a violator on Match.com.
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Registered: 09-25-2004
Tue, 08-19-2008 - 8:55am

I guess always ask for a landline phone number.. See if they hesitate to give you that. If a guy lives alone, he wont have problems giving you his landline.


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Registered: 08-08-2007
Tue, 08-19-2008 - 12:43pm
Here's a nice email you could send him. (Use Google translator to read it ;o) http://translate.google.com/translate_t?sl=en&tl=de

~Pacific~
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Tue, 08-19-2008 - 12:50pm
Pacific!!!
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Registered: 05-06-2008
Tue, 08-19-2008 - 3:50pm
ARGH! These men! I swear, the internet has made the strangest people come into our lives and wreak such havoc! Thank goodness the girlfriend said something, though it still stinks to be on the receiving end. So sorry.
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Registered: 03-15-2004
Tue, 08-19-2008 - 4:24pm
Shoot! I actually did JUST E him an hour ago, its below. But i should have thought to sendit in German! lol - Anyway, i feel better, I had my say. & what's done is done. NEXT, lolI dont expect or want a response, but your silence, I will take, as an admission of guilt. For a brief moment I was hoping that ***** was just some scorned X girlfriend of yours who had your email password & was set on destroying you - but now I have learned that you are just a heartless a******. How can you play with people's hearts like that? If you want to be single, be a player, fine. But don't promise yourself to a woman & continually lie to her. & then SELFISHLY suck someone like me into your games. Very dissapointing that you aren't anywhere NEAR the "man" you portray yourself as. Great example you are setting for your sons. Let's hope they dont grow up to be lying, manipulating, cheaters as well.Good luck with your life, because if you keep this up, you're going to end up a lonely old man.


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