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Sun, 03-25-2007 - 10:28pm

What's a reason that you have given someone as to why you can't go out with them again?


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Registered: 11-20-2003
In reply to: cl_alison
Mon, 03-26-2007 - 3:34am

Good morning!

I usually go for honesty, but a few years ago, there was a guy who was way too keen on me, and I just wasn't interested. Because he was so infatuated, I really couldn't tell the truth, and had to find some way of letting him down gently. Lucky for me, he had a psycho ex, so I used her as an excuse to get out of seeing him again. I just said I couldn't cope with her constantly phoning etc. It was a chicken way out, and it took a while before he stopped trying to convince me, but it eventually worked.

I don't think a physical attribute would be enough for me to end things. There would have to be a few other red flags or things I didn't like as well. A physical attribute (such as bad teeth, BO, etc.) would only ever be a contributing factor for me to end things. If I liked someone enough, I would try to encourage him to fix the problem (buy deodorant, go to the dentists, etc.) ;o)

Clem xx

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Registered: 02-08-2006
In reply to: cl_alison
Mon, 03-26-2007 - 8:36am

Being a sngle mother, I often have used time constraints or busy-ness as a reason. not my children, exactly, but that things are just so packed full for me right now... and while there's always some grain of truth to that, when I want to spend time with someone I find a way around the timing issues.

I have only ever met one guy that I didn't want to see again because of something physical. He was very nice, but there was absolutely no chemistry, in fact I was quite nearly repulsed by him. I knew that his appearance wasn't going to change, and felt that my feelings wouldn't have either. I hope he's found the right one for him by now, but I know it wasn't me.

There haven't been a lot of guys that I didn't see a picture of before meeting- actually, I saw of picture of the above-mentioned guy, too, but it didn't prepare me for real life. If the guys looked like the pictures, I was satisfied, and there were guys I haven't initiated or repsonded to because of their appearance.

Moody, not as shallow as this post makes her seem


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Registered: 05-13-2005
In reply to: cl_alison
Mon, 03-26-2007 - 8:52am

I am trying to remember back to my online dating days. None of them had a physical attribute that caused me to reject them - but maybe this is because I only responded to guys with pictures I liked?

Rather, they were rejected by me because they had a serious life red flag (drinking excessively, player, multiple trainwreck divorces, serious money problems, me wanting to have my kids raised by a nanny so we can travel, going back with an ex and then trying to come back to me - that kind of stuff).

I would usually blow them off if we were just in the intial stages of dating. I tend to be more conservative since I am a single mom and don't want a wacko after me because I rejected him. If we were more well acquainted, I would usually tell the truth why I did not want to continue.

I don't require a movie star or model by any means, but I know I would not be attracted to someone who grossly neglected himself in the hygiene/taking care of yourself department.

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Registered: 09-21-2006
In reply to: cl_alison
Mon, 03-26-2007 - 3:52pm

Let's see...1,no chemistry
2. can't keep seeing you because you have no time for me- once every 2 weeks is not enough to have a relationship,
3. and the dreaded I've met someone I am interested in developing something serious with
In all 3 cases it was the truth.

No, haven't ended things due to a physical attribute, but all 3 of these guys I met thru OLD so I saw a picture first. I didn't respond to guys I found physically repulsive.

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Registered: 05-13-2005
In reply to: cl_alison
Mon, 03-26-2007 - 4:00pm
I so agree with number 2 - that is a pet peeve. There were so many guys who were so busy or travelled all the time that they could only see you like once every two weeks. I guess that is why they were doing OLD!
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In reply to: cl_alison
Mon, 03-26-2007 - 9:58pm
A few of my reasons have been distance, lack of chemistry ( I told him that I just wasn't feeling that "click") and a few guys that I got to the phone chat stage with were just still too intertwined in how their marriage ended and still showing signs of bitterness~NEXT!
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Registered: 03-15-2004
In reply to: cl_alison
Tue, 03-27-2007 - 4:05am

Well, usually it IS b/c of a physical attribute when I wont go out with them a FIRST time. B/c i have no attraction. & often after they dont get the HINT when I dont reply to their emails, I will LIE, & tell them that I am very busy, my plate is full, & i will keep their email addy in case I find some free time.

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