No, I don't. I need an exclusive relationship with a man before I will have sex with him. I'm a very private person and I wouldn't share my body with someone who is out dating whoever else.
Do I "believe" in sex as part of the casual dating process? I don't believe it is necessary, if that is what you're asking. I also don't think it's wise or safe to have sex with just any guy you date casually. But I also don't deal in absolutes - it's not 100% wrong or right, in my opinion.
There was a time in my life when I did not want committment or a relationship with someone. I wanted nothing to do with being tied down. I had other goals and committments. But I did want to have fun and I did want to feel like a sexual woman. It was a time when no strings sex was welcome. I had a steady partner, though, whom I trusted and it was great. But I wouldn't casually have sex with all the men I dated, my God! that would be over 80 men! LOL
I continue to have my FWB and we've been doing that now for over a year. It works great. I get what I want, he gets what we want; we have great date time together, not just the whole bang bang thank you man. We cook dinner, drink wine, talk, laugh and he's a great friend. However, as I have always said, not relationship material for several reasons, including religion. I've been doing the FWB thing since my first daughter was born 12 yrs ago. They usually last over a year and then I move. lol You just can't get mixed up in the emotions. I am good with not doing that. I can separate feelings, when I am not interested in a guy. It's only when I really like someone, that I tend to get more emotional. I've got the feeling, that all I really need to do, is be able to act so "I don't care" attitude. The one's I do that with, I get along the best with. Afterwhile, they just seem stuck on me. ;-) It's when I start showing that I care, that I get treated like a doormat.
Usually when I'm ready to have sex with a man while casually dating him; it's after we have decided to date exclusively. Now, of course, I have not always adhered to this rule! Personally though, I don't equate sex to mean nothing more than just sex, another form of intimacy and/or closeness. With that being said, I don't maintain booty calls -- but can have a sexual partner who offers companionship and good conversation.
Regardless of exclusivity or "heat of the moment"; I'm always prepared with condoms!! Regular and flavored ones!! (smile) My last LTR was 2-1/2 years ago and we both went and got tested before dissing the condoms.
i don't believe in "casual" dating sex as in sex with diff partners for many reasons - one in which even condoms break. lately every new bf i have i make him get tested if he wants to have sex. my last bf though i waited about 3 months after we had been having sex because he kept putting it off which made me feel very guilty about the whole sex thing which isn't any fun. but we both got tested and everything was good. it's just way too risky these days. thinking some guy could be having unprotected sex with some other woman is way too risky. i think you should only be exclusive with one guy to have sex. not that you have to be really serious but that you have an agreement. but when you're not serious with someone as in commitment, then how do you really know what they're doing? maybe they have the same agreement with someone else. you never know. but i guess nobody ever really knows. married men cheat all the time.
I like that you are prepared with condoms and then have both of you tested before you diss them. Good thinking!! See, I learn something (or many things) new from this board every day!!
I agree with you and am so glad you brought this up. Do you mind if I ask where you go to get tested and what you get tested for? Do you do this together?
Cat you are too hilarious!! It sounds like you have a good thing going with your friend - I bet you will miss him when you come over here. Have you broken the news to him? How did you meet him? Tell us more!!
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I totally agree with you on this fivesense.
I would not feel comfortable being intimate and having sex unless I knew that a guy was totally into me and exclusive with me.
I have made exceptions on this in the past and have regretted them.
Do I "believe" in sex as part of the casual dating process? I don't believe it is necessary, if that is what you're asking. I also don't think it's wise or safe to have sex with just any guy you date casually. But I also don't deal in absolutes - it's not 100% wrong or right, in my opinion.
There was a time in my life when I did not want committment or a relationship with someone. I wanted nothing to do with being tied down. I had other goals and committments. But I did want to have fun and I did want to feel like a sexual woman. It was a time when no strings sex was welcome. I had a steady partner, though, whom I trusted and it was great. But I wouldn't casually have sex with all the men I dated, my God! that would be over 80 men! LOL
You just can't get mixed up in the emotions. I am good with not doing that. I can separate feelings, when I am not interested in a guy. It's only when I really like someone, that I tend to get more emotional. I've got the feeling, that all I really need to do, is be able to act so "I don't care" attitude. The one's I do that with, I get along the best with. Afterwhile, they just seem stuck on me. ;-)
It's when I start showing that I care, that I get treated like a doormat.
Usually when I'm ready to have sex with a man while casually dating him; it's after we have decided to date exclusively. Now, of course, I have not always adhered to this rule! Personally though, I don't equate sex to mean nothing more than just sex, another form of intimacy and/or closeness. With that being said, I don't maintain booty calls -- but can have a sexual partner who offers companionship and good conversation.
Regardless of exclusivity or "heat of the moment"; I'm always prepared with condoms!! Regular and flavored ones!! (smile) My last LTR was 2-1/2 years ago and we both went and got tested before dissing the condoms.
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