QOTW - does going back with an ex work?

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QOTW - does going back with an ex work?
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Tue, 07-11-2006 - 5:48am
Hi to all. Here is your question of the week. Does it ever work for ex's to get back together? I mean from a dating standpoint, more than a divorced standpoint. Have you ever gotten back with an exbf and then had it work out? Ever seen a friend do this?
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Tue, 07-11-2006 - 10:18am
No.



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Tue, 07-11-2006 - 10:21am

For me personally- never. My exes are exes for a reason, and there's no point in going back.

For my friends- I don't know of any friends who have tried and had it work out. I've known some who went back and then realized that it wasn't going to work out any better than the first time.

But then you hear of stories where people meet up again after years apart- and maybe even being married to other people in the meantime, now both divorced and they run into each other... and then it works out (at least so far). So I can't say it CAN'T ever happen and can't ever work out. I just know that it won't happen with me and any of my exes, because I've changed so much over the years and I just can't see it happening to me.

~shrimpy

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Tue, 07-11-2006 - 10:50am

I've never tried myself, and for the life of me I can't think

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Tue, 07-11-2006 - 11:46am

well fob was an exb then we got back together, nuff said, huh???

i've learned that ex's are that for a reason, if it's not working out, it probably won't, people don't change that much over time

 

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Tue, 07-11-2006 - 11:50am
I've never tried it, and I've never seen it work for anyone, so my answer would be NO. There was a reason you broke up in the first place and that is not gonna change IMO




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Fri, 07-14-2006 - 1:31pm

It didn't work for me. You all know my history with Mark. What that has taught me though is that where there is cheating involved, don't take him back. Once a cheater, always a cheater!

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Fri, 07-14-2006 - 2:45pm

That is certainly true in your case, Donna!

I have seen many couples get back together and it works for them. And the discussion from a recent poster got me thinking about this. I certainly wouldn't want one of my exes back but wanted to hear from everyone.

I think it might work when you are younger - but somehow not when you are older and more established.

One of my friends broke up with her boyfriend, now husband at least once when they were in their early 20s and dating. He just wasn't ready for a real gf - but when he was ready they dated and he proposed. And 2 guys I have dated left me for their exs. ONe didn't last - and one did.

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Sat, 07-15-2006 - 10:31pm

For me personally, never. I don't try it. I've ended all of my past relationships, and I've ended them for a reason. Those reasons don't go away, so the relationship would never work.

I have a very good friend who's currently seriously dating a guy, and they've broken up a couple of times, briefly. I wouldn't say their relationship works, my opinion is that my friend is afraid of being alone, and he likes the convenience having a girlfriend who will eventually put up with all of his crap, and so always comes back to her. Whether they'll end up together in the end is anyone's guess, but I seriously doubt it, and hope not for her sake.

I don't personally know anyone for whome this has worked. My feelings are pretty straightforward on this. In fact, I'm pretty stubborn about it. I just don't even entertain the thought of reuniting with an ex once he becomes an ex.

Moody- who's probably a little more harsh than some people, considering


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Sun, 07-16-2006 - 2:21am

I broke up with A a million times and kept going back.


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Mon, 07-17-2006 - 1:24pm

I found a link to this board through our CL newsletter - it has an article for men on how to get back with your ex - and I thought it was hilarious:

http://www.askmen.com/dating/dating_advice_150/154_dating_tips_a.html

"What should a guy do if he wants to get back together with an ex-girlfriend?"

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