QOTW- How long?

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Registered: 10-07-2005
QOTW- How long?
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Wed, 08-13-2008 - 7:59pm

Thinking of Tiara's post, I got to thinking about timelines... the "expected" timeframe of certain events.


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Registered: 10-07-2005
In reply to: cl_alison
Wed, 08-13-2008 - 8:56pm

I'll go first:

* Becoming exclusive- within three months of the first date
* Saying I love you- within three months of being exclusive
* Becoming engaged- after about a year
* Length of engagement- not FOUR years like I did! We never did set a date, so I would want to set a date within three months of the engagement date! But normally, I think a year after the engagement date is enough to allow for planning, anything more is tedious!
* Discussing having children- you should discuss before engagement if you want kids or not
* Having said children- at least a year after marriage if you do it the "right way" LOL! To me, this would give you time to settle into the role of wife or husband.

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Registered: 03-15-2004
In reply to: cl_alison
Wed, 08-13-2008 - 9:47pm
Lets add ... getting Nakie time too ...
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Registered: 03-15-2004
In reply to: cl_alison
Wed, 08-13-2008 - 9:49pm

  • Becoming exclusive - 2-3 months
  • Saying I love you - at least a few months for me, if not a bit more
  • Becoming engaged - at least a year, MAYBE a little less since Im older!
  • Length of engagement - at least 6 months
  • Discussing having children - from a couple months in
  • Having said children - with MY eggs? YESTERDAY!

  • Getting Nakie (sex ... the whole shabang) - for a "serious" potential relationship? 4-6 dates.
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Registered: 10-07-2005
In reply to: cl_alison
Wed, 08-13-2008 - 9:50pm
Ok, but nakie time "should be" time and nakie time "can't wait" time is FAR from each other :P
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Registered: 10-30-2004
In reply to: cl_alison
Wed, 08-13-2008 - 9:57pm
  • Becoming exclusive Within 3 months
  • Saying I love you After becoming exclusive, when it feels right.
  • Becoming engaged In my case we waited 2 years.
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    Registered: 10-10-2007
    In reply to: cl_alison
    Wed, 08-13-2008 - 11:42pm

    • Becoming exclusive within 3 months (if not exclusive by then--end it!)
    • Saying I love you between 4-6 months
    • Becoming engaged one year
    • Length of engagement six months-one year
    • Discussing having children right away--if your opinions differ better to know ASAP
    • Having said children Best--after 1-2 years--but that isn't always possible

    • Nakie time I say only when exclusive but it doesn't always work out that way!

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    Registered: 09-11-2007
    In reply to: cl_alison
    Thu, 08-14-2008 - 10:10am

    Well, do you want to know what my ‘rules’ were or how it REALLY happened??? ;-)


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    Registered: 10-07-2005
    In reply to: cl_alison
    Thu, 08-14-2008 - 10:45am

    LOL!

    Be careful what you bug DD with- or you'll wind up with a positive sign on the pee stick sooner than you thought :P

    The boy

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    Registered: 09-11-2007
    In reply to: cl_alison
    Thu, 08-14-2008 - 11:20am

    Be careful what you bug DD with- or you'll wind up with a positive sign on the pee stick sooner than you thought :P


    It was actually funny, because later in the evening, she was like 'Mom, what do you think of xxx for a boy?'

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    Registered: 05-06-2008
    In reply to: cl_alison
    Thu, 08-14-2008 - 11:41am

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