QOTW: how many fish in your pond?
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QOTW: how many fish in your pond?
| Fri, 05-04-2007 - 11:37am |
Soonee mentioned a good topic in the About You thread. Are there plenty of available men in your age group? If not, what do you think is the reason?
What is your age group?
Do you feel there are plenty of men or almost no men to date?
For me, this is a big issue - I am 45 and it seems all the men my age want 18 to 35 for their age group. Many have a lot of red flags in their profiles. And few are fit. I want fit and active, not the type of person who is a couch potato or who goes out drinking late at night. So, for me, I feel like there is not many. I am being patient and getting out there and doing OLD so there is hope. Right?

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LOL Cat you are hilarious! I agree.
Jennifer
Hotcha Hotcha... your description is making me drool, too.
Did you see Grey's Anatomy...? there was a real Hot part with the guy and the surfboard.
Interesting things to think about...
When I was browsing OLD, I found many men in my age range, but not too many that caught my eye. My area seems to be FULL of men who are too country-looking for me as I prefer clean-cut and/or sporty and not bushy-mustached and hick-looking. I'm not saying that any men that look that way couldn't be quality men- it's just that I'm not attracted to that look.
But like Judy, I prefer a man who is fit and takes care of himself- and not a couch potato or overweight. And many men who are in my age range (lower 40's) are just that way (at least they seem to be in my locale).
My OLD range-for-hunting was upper 30's-lower 50's and included anything in the 40's as I was around 40 then. I've dated men who were nearly 9 years younger (once before I was married, and once after being divorced) and while both were nice and fun... they were too immature for anything long-term. I like having fun sometimes, but I just don't want to have to train up a new man-cub. I want one who is already grown if I'm going to keep one. lol ;-)
I used to think I couldn't date anyone who was 10 yrs older than I was either- but then I met Hiker and then all that changed. Age just became literally "just a number". He didn't seem as old as his age, so it doesn't ever FEEL like I'm dating someone 10 yrs older. Also, I know I don't seem as old as my age either- so to him, he's dating a 'much younger' woman. Not that I think he was after only some young hot thing... but it's kinda cool for him that he ended up with one. Sort of. LOL ;-) But really- his age range in his OLD profile did NOT include the young hot women age. He has daughters in that age range- so he was looking for women who were at LEAST 10 yrs older than his oldest daughter- otherwise it would've been pretty creepy! So I was pretty much well into the lower end of the age range he was looking for. (LOL- yeah some young hot thing... )
I can't judge as to whether my locale has a good supply of single men in general or not- all I can go by is what I've seen in OLD, and it can be slim pickin's on there- even when I gave myself quite a wide range of ages to go by.
When I'm just out and about (like at the store, the bank, events or wherever)- I do notice men's hands (the wedding ring sightings) and from THAT, I think most men in my age range are married. Most are unavailable.
Anyway- I'm losing my train of thought... gotta go see what Mom wants as Dad just called. If I find that I've forgotten some big thought, I will post it later.
~shrimpy
~shrimpy
"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.
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I am 39 and all of my dates have been older than me. My ex husband was 12 years older than me, got married when I was 20 and he was 32. So because of that I do not really think to much about age. Though the one guy I had a serios relationship with, I met him at a speed dating event and the age range was 34-42. When we went out on our first real date he told me he was 52! He looked darn good for 52, but I was at first disappointed to hear that as I hoped to find someone closer to my age.
The other men I have casually dated have been between 40-48. The current guy I am seeing is 48. I get tons of contacts from older men on line, some in their 60's -my dad's age! I have also gotten emails from a few guys in their early 20's also. I would not be interested in that. To immature. I find most guys on line have as there top age a few years younger than they are.
Hi, well I read all the posts and find that there's a definite trend, many of us 30ish, and the men that are available are either much younger or much older. I have been flirting more with men who are older because of my situation here (I'm 37, recently separated, my H left me pregnant, I'm due in a month, plus have a preschooler DD). I'm fortunate that the men who are older and "available" are in pretty good shape. My city is industrial and there's a lot of scruffy men, so I'm not going to get a corporate white collar guy any time soon, but there are some men hard working, naturally in good shape due to heavy work, and also try their best to stay groomed.
I didn't really seriously want to date older men just because of what will people think? But now that it seems that's the available pool, I might just re-think my options. There's one man I met he's quiet but has these remarkably intelligent eyes, he's in really good shape neck down - lol - I wouldn't call him handsome, but not bad looking either, average Joe. But I wonder if it all still works for them (i.e. do they need Viagra?) - geez, so new to the whole idea of dating. Another single man I met is similar in looks to George Clooney, but blue collar worker, a real hottie though but too fast for me, I've seen whippet dogs move slower and I think he's on some energy enhancing additives for lack of a better word.
Hmm...well if older men are attracted to younger women then I shouldn't have too much of a hard time finding one to date, lol, if they don't mind a woman with very young kids (times like this I think my life is just too inconvenient).
Ironically my STBX-H is not dating (he's 34) I think he's doing a serious long term "in the cave" so if any girl flirts with him he's not ready to date yet (he needs the divorce to feel that it's o.k. and we have to wait a year in Canada, so it will be in Dec. this year that I'll see him move on). I have a funny image in my head just now of millions of 30ish men in a big cave, that's why there's none around to date. Find that cave, and you'll find a lot of men, just sitting there, biding time.
Not hunky but chunky
Hahaha!
"Lawn Boy" is 54, I am 39. His body is that of a 40 yr old in GREAT shape ... & as I have said b4, his penis has NO clue ITS 54 ;)
But, THAT is just sex - Im not looking for anything long term. So i can care less about the age difference. & on the other hand, the young Boston stud is the exact same situation, not looking for long term with him either, & he is 28.
NEITHER of these guys in "in my age dating range" ... so if i was looking for long term with them, I wouldnt date them. But Im in it for 1 thing, lol ...
lol about the Viagra, it IS a concern with these guys older than say 45. & put a few drinks in them, & Buy-buy penis!
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