QOTW- Prenuptial Agreement

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QOTW- Prenuptial Agreement
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Fri, 06-27-2008 - 1:16am

Ok, so Rebecca's reply of " If he had more money than me. B/c i will be damned if anyone gets a settlement from ME again! lol" got me thinking about Prenups.

Would you be more willing to marry again if your partner was willing to sign a prenuptial agreement?




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Registered: 10-30-2004
Fri, 06-27-2008 - 6:21am

I would definately go for a prenup.

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Registered: 09-25-2004
Fri, 06-27-2008 - 6:48am

As someone who is about to say "I do" pretty soon , I guess I should answer this qn. I personally dont belive in prenups. However I have seen cases where it would have been nice to have some agreement..but well it is late by then.


I feel that my love and time I give for a person is really priceless and I do that willingly and because I desire his presence in life. I have never been cheated on and I wont cheat on any one. But

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Registered: 10-30-2004
Fri, 06-27-2008 - 7:03am

Yeah the 10 lb thing is crazy!

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Registered: 10-01-2007
Fri, 06-27-2008 - 9:37am

My thoughts on this (and they could change I guess) I would hope that if I ever got to the point to remarry that niether my partner nor myself would feel like this was necessary.

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Registered: 10-07-2005
Fri, 06-27-2008 - 1:30pm

Well, I would expect that his ex wife would get half of everything- that's not exactly being taken for everything in my books, especially if she was a stay at home parent for any time in their marriage.


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Fri, 06-27-2008 - 1:49pm

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Registered: 06-04-2004
Fri, 06-27-2008 - 2:03pm

I wouldn't do a pre-nup. I'd like to think that if the upcoming marriage had enough mistrust to warrant a pre-nup, then that alone would be enough of a sign that the marriage should not happen at all. On either party's parts/assets.


I would rather remain single than enter into a marriage where I or the man felt the need for a pre-nup. It would mean a basic trust is not there, wouldn't it?


About the couple with the 10-lb weight gain clause on the woman... I wonder if she even thought to throw that back on HIM?!?? What happens if HE got a big belly and gained weight as well??? I know MY ex got heavy after being married!! How DARE that man demand that of his future wife, without having a clause in there for himself, to promise his wife the same deal?


Sheesh...


~shrimpy

"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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Registered: 10-30-2004
Fri, 06-27-2008 - 2:26pm

What happens if HE got a big belly and gained weight as well???


I never thought of that!!!

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Registered: 09-21-2006
Fri, 06-27-2008 - 2:37pm

Well, I'm not too enthusiastic about marrying again; however I'd demand a prenup. Not the sort referred to here with weight and cheating issues, but I would spell out what resources were mine sole and separate and which were his sole and separate prior to marriage. But assets that come after marriage fall into community property. It simply makes good financial sense if both parties have significant assets prior to meeting and children that they want to leave those assets to. And M agrees totally. Funny we've had that conversation but neither of us is thinking marriage.

No, I would never sign anything like the prenup discussed with the 10lb clause. That would scream loud and clear I was dealing with a selfish boor.

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Registered: 11-03-2003
Fri, 06-27-2008 - 3:16pm

I used to argue against pre-nups (why marry someone you don't trust?) , but then I lived a few years, collected a few assets, and watched people undergo some surprising changes.


One compelling reason for me for a pre-nup is that Things Happen, and people - even good people - can change.

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