QOTW-- search criteria
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QOTW-- search criteria
| Fri, 05-23-2008 - 7:02pm |
Ok- Rebecca's post got me thinking:
What is your search criteria (for those doing OLD)...
Age, height, distance, kids/ no kids... etc.


Well, I am not searching, but some good criteria that was learned in the school of hard knocks - so can't "sit on hands" - LOL!!
age: 38 to 54 (my age is 46)
height: 5'9" (1 inch taller than me) to 6'4"
distance: within 40 miles
important stuff:
-drinks socially or not at all - is not a heavy partier
-nonsmoker
-neutral religion (meaning not atheist or something that really clashes with mine)
-exercises 3 or more times per week
-has a situation that meshes (Mark calls this similar lifestyle/lifestage) and to me that would mean full time happy job with income that is similar or higher, doesn't travel for a living, is planted here and doesn't want more kids
Hmm this is a good question! I search for people close to me. I have no height preference since I am only 4'11 and 3/4 (yes the 3/4's matters a TON to me) So to me every guy is tall! Hahaha! Although guys over 6 feet and I look a weeee bit silly together due to it being such a drastic height difference.
Age - I'm 40, so my age range is 37-50.
Height -
I just find it funny that I didn't meet Hiker until I adjusted my criteria- because my initial criteria excluded him!
Age: I was around 39-40 at the time, and searched around 35-45 or so. Hiker was 49 at the time. He didn't fall into my search listings until I allowed my age range to go up higher. I'd learned that it's not the NUMBER that matters, but how healthy they are at whatever age they are. I'd met some younger men who seemed older than I was because they were not active or healthy. I also know of older men who were healthier than I was (like Hiker)... so the age is just a number.
Height: I'm only 5'1" but yet I was wanting someone 5'11"-6'2"... mainly because that was a good height for me for C&W dancing. But with kids... the whole concept of bar-hopping late at night went out the window, plus it seemed like most men I would meet in dance halls were heavy smokers or drinkers, or both. And I didn't want either! Plus, I knew of some great family friends who were WONDERFUL people (a great husband for the wife) and he was pretty much my height (they are Asian). So after that, I dropped my height criteria to somewhere around 5'6" or so... because even at that height, they would still be taller than I am, although not considered "tall". It was more important to me, to
~shrimpy
"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.
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LOL- just leave it to me to respond to this like it was a school report.
But you can't say I haven't given these things alot of thought through the years! When I was dating in my 20's, all that mattered (some days, sheesh) was that they were breathing! LOL
Thankfully I am MUCH more picky about who I spend my time with these days.
~shrimpy
It's never too late to live happily ever after, and always be grateful for those who make our souls blossom.
~shrimpy
"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.
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"all that mattered (some days, sheesh) was that they were breathing! LOL"
ROFL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
You are a hoot - you sure always have a way with words!! And yes - I can relate to that in my 20s. What a waste of time and a whole bunch of mindless dating and directionless relationships. LOL!!
Age: between 40 and 50 (I'm 42)
Distance: No more than 25 miles. I live in Southern California. Traffic is crazy so anything further makes getting together a trial.
Smoking: No but we all know my story right now with NN
Drinking: Socially is fine. No heavy drinkers
Kids: I struggle with this one. I automatically rule out men with no kids and maybe I should be more open minded. I feel like they just won't "get" the time, commitment, etc that you need to devote to kids. However, I'm in an "odd" place because I'm in my 40's but my kids are very young (4 and 7). Men my age usually have kids that are in their teens. I'd really like to hear from someone who has dated (long term) a man with no kids and how that went.
Divorced/never married: Here's another area I struggle with. If you're in your 40's and have never been married....why? I know that some people just haven't met that special someone but I can't help but wonder since I often meet a never-married man and can usually see why he's never married. LOL!!
Something else I look for is someone who is into my hobby or at least understands it. I love my motorcycle and the time I spend on it with my friends...or alone for that matter. I would love for the man I end up with to ride but understand that may not be possible. This is where Bikerguy and I really clicked. It has been a huge part of our relationship. And for the first time in my life, I have a hobby that is very important to me that I'm not willing to give up. It brings me great joy and relaxation. NN doesn't ride but understands and supports my love of it...at least so far!
Cat
However Shrimpy's post is making me re-think my views.
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