Quantity not Quality

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Quantity not Quality
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Tue, 05-27-2008 - 6:25pm

OK after a almost daily string of coffee dates from women off Match and eHarmony, I ended this past holiday weekend with no mutually satisfying prospects.


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Tue, 05-27-2008 - 10:46pm

The chemistry part is the actual coffee first meeting. I trust my instincts. Ironically my first meeting with CNDG was not a date but a MeetIn Mingler and she definitely was sending out "I'm not interested in anyone" vibe and I was not attracted to her. It took the first one-on-one meeting (I guess you could call it a date) that I really got attracted to her as I talked more and more with her. That took me off guard since I was not initially physically attracted to her (as you may recall I thought her as "stocky").

My last relationship was from someone I met from an OLD site and there was no chemistry the first meeting. I did not think she was interested and later I found out she was very interested. We kissed the second date but it really did not get any better afterwards. I stuck with it for 1.5 yrs before I realized that the chemistry was not going to develop and it still mattered to me.

So there you go. I think it's harder as we get older for guys are still visual. The women who don't age well have a harder time IMHO to attract men. I also look for a woman's sparkle, her playfulness, and her open heart. For me, no matter how physically attractive the woman is, if she does not have some of that then I am not interested.

Mark





We're fools whether we dance or not, so we might as well dance. ~Japanese Proverb







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