Question directed to onliners

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-28-2004
Question directed to onliners
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Tue, 10-09-2007 - 5:53pm

When browsing around, when you see someone you may like, do you send them a message or do you just browse and wait for someone to contact you? I've been known to send the first message but I never really know what to say...it's quite intimidating.

I've been also browsing around CL and for some reason it's kinda scary to me. I don't know if it's because there are no pictures or what...can't quite put my finger on the reason. Anyone have any good experiences with CL?

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-13-2005
Tue, 10-09-2007 - 6:48pm

rlch is on CL so maybe she can help with tips for using it. I went on the one here and freaked - it is all people looking for sex and very wierd things. Not one nice one in my age group.

I am a matchee type. If there is one I like, I might wink or ask him a question about his profile to see if he notices - but that has not worked so far for me. Usually the ones I have had a relationship with have found me and written nice letters and really pursued me. I have met some very nice people - but thus far the "situations" were not good for long term or an exgf came into the picture. So, I am looking again.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-03-2003
Wed, 10-10-2007 - 9:31am

Maybe CL is different in various parts of the country, but the one here

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-28-2004
Wed, 10-10-2007 - 10:26am
I'm on POF. I had just been hearing about the CL and wondered if I was the only one that it creeped out. Glad I'm not alone in that...I thought it was just my paranoia kickin in!
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-08-2007
Wed, 10-10-2007 - 11:35am

I guess I'm totally OLD naive...what's CL?


~Pacific~

~Pacific~
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-03-2003
Wed, 10-10-2007 - 11:46am

In this part of the world, Craig's List is a free online Classified Ads where people list furniture and old refrigerators for sale.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-08-2007
Wed, 10-10-2007 - 12:23pm

Oh! CraigsList! I only knew Craigslist as a place to sell fishtanks, and garage sale stuff. See how out of the loop I am...LOL!. The discreet encounters sounds a little creepy.


~Pacific~

~Pacific~
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-04-2005
Wed, 10-10-2007 - 12:53pm

I've met plenty of nice guys from CL.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-13-2005
Wed, 10-10-2007 - 6:40pm
YES - and the last time I checked there was a married couple looking to add a girl to their mix - menage et trois, anyone? I did not see anyone in my age group who appeared normal and a lot of dominants and submissives looking for each other. That just goes WAY beyond my level of "creativity" for fun. It absolutely flipped me out. Also a lot of married guys looking to pay someone for some times of fun. Bad bad bad in my opinion.