Question! Do you talk about the past?

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-28-2008
Question! Do you talk about the past?
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Thu, 09-18-2008 - 3:29pm

I saw this posted on Craigslist:


Just curious but why is it that some chicks want to talk about their ex boy friends or husbands? I mean your on a date, or maybe even its the phone calls leading up to the date, whatever, and inevitably some comment is made about the previous loser she was with. I don't get it. Should I play along and spill the beans on all the women I've been with? I just don't see how that is productive. I read something somewhere that stated "if shes talking to you about her ex...she sees you as one of her girl friends and has no interest in you beyond being friends". Is that true? Just wondering...seems to be happening a lot lately. Sure gets me looking for the exits.


So I felt the need to reply via email:


Thats totally untrue about the woman looking at you as a friend if she talks about her ex's.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-25-2002
Fri, 09-19-2008 - 12:08pm

I hate to admit that my ex comes up.... i think carefully before mentioning anything regarding the ex. I ask myself, do i think this is relevent to helping the other person know me and where i'm coming from... and not just to vent or bash the ex.


for example, H4 and his drug issues. sure i mentioned that i'm more experienced with that situation than i'd like to be... ie ex was a drug addict. But i guess, it was in reference to why i didn't want to date him...


Plus, i think what's more important is the healing. What guys really want to know is that we are over the past guy.. that we won't go back to them... that we are not stuck in the past. What i look for is forgiveness and

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-01-2007
Fri, 09-19-2008 - 3:22pm

With Builder and I, we've talked some about the past and our marriages and what happened.

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